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What to do. Favoritism.

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BraxtonTricks · 07/09/2017 15:07

Have name changed but been round a while.

DM has always shown favouritism to one particular grandchild over all other family members. Including over all children. Quite frankly it is causing a lot of heartache, resentment and ill feeling. DM will not admit favoritism, in spite of GC being favored with more time, more complements, never stops talking about this child. Also more money has always been spent on her, including living rent free with her (grand child is now an adult) and now grandchild will move into DMs house for little or no rent as DM lives with new partner. Any time children have tried to address this we are apparently just jealous. DM has other grandchildren who are definitely not treated the same, never have and never will be. It's not even the money for me. I have always even as a young child had jobs and been financially independent from a very young age. Its the blatant favoritism that is hurtful.

So what to do? This is just making me not to want to have anything to do with my mother. Which sounds stupid as she is still my mother. I am able to forget about it for a while, then something else happens and it all comes to the fore again.

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Barbaro · 07/09/2017 15:57

People like this do not change. My grandad is like this, has his favourite grandchildren. He does change his mind though a lot on who the favourite is. Never me though but I don't help matters by responding to his rudeness with sarcasm.

They shouldn't do it, but they do. Best to get on with it and not care.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 07/09/2017 16:11

People like your mother indeed do not change.

Do not tolerate favouritism from your mother because it is affecting your family unit to its detriment. I would actually have nothing to do with her now and if you cannot do that then at the very least lower all forms of contact to a point where zero is happening. You do not need to be shown over and over that the rest of you are second class citizens to this one person she has on a pedestal of her own making.

BraxtonTricks · 07/09/2017 19:52

Yes. I don't think she will change. The funny thing is she cant see it or wont admit it. Yes I think best to distance myself from it all.

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