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Amazing 1st Date - tell me your happy success stories

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PhoenixMama · 07/09/2017 08:05

I've been through the mill when it comes to men & dating. At the end of last year I ended up with 4 (different) dates in a row that were either married or actively looking to get back with their ex, so I deleted all the apps and gave up.

I've been working on myself since then and learning to stand up for myself, figuring out what I want, etc. It's been hard as I suffer anxiety but totally worth it.

A few weeks ago some friends convinced me it would be good to try dating again. I've been much stricter & ended up chatting with this guy who seems very kind, genuine, into his kids etc. We seem to have a lot in common, says he wants a relationship too, etc. I now screen guy's by phone before & date & our first call lasted 4 hours.

Last night we went on our first date and it was wonderful. Probably one of the best first dates. Everything just moved on from our phone calls, but there were little touches, hand holding and kissing. We've both said it feels like we've known each other a lot longer than we have.

This both thrills and terrifies me. In some ways it feels it wasn't a first date but stepping into a relationship, which is how my ExH felt when we first met (and we were crazy about each other in the beginning). But I have a friend who tells me I'm being ridiculous & no one feels like that at the start.

Dear Mumsnetters tell me you good dating stories where things can actually be easy and good and go somewhere!

OP posts:
Lottey90 · 07/09/2017 08:09

It's only a first date, don't get your hopes up too much! You don't want to get disappointed.
Sounds promising though.

fantasmasgoria1 · 07/09/2017 08:14

I definitely felt like that and nearly a year later we are living together and engaged! I never felt like this with my two ltr exes and took months before I knew I felt any love for them (soon went away) ! I knew I loved my fiancé very early on and he did me! It may or may not work out but don't put too much pressure on yourself and enjoy each date! Good luck!!!!!

0ccamsRazor · 07/09/2017 08:16

Enjoy the honey moon period and the joy of getting to know him.

But keep a little of yourself back and your heart safe, just as a caution.

Don't run before you can walk, so don't rush into things just let this develope organically and in its own time.

If he pushes forward through the different stages of a relationship and you are not ready, then listen to your instincts. Keep an eye out for any red flags.

Fingers crossed for you Op.

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