Divorce petition has been issued and will arrive in the post soon and I feel terrible

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Is this normal?

I feel sad, scared, and as if I am making a terrible mistake .

(I am the petitioner. It would be easier if it was H .)

Help. What do I do? I think I wanted him to change, but he never will. And now I am faced with the prospect of my whole life imploding .

Take a deep breath. You are divorcing this man for a reason, probably many reasons, and if you reflect on them, I'm sure you'll realize they are good ones. How you're feeling right now is totally normal. It's a huge step and you're scared and vulnerable. What I can promise is that when you get over this hump and get back to your new normal, you will be so glad you went through all this. Give yourself a break and just ride it out.

felt exactly the same! I was the one who started it rolling, not H, and had the same panic when it was official and sent off!

what were the circumstances surrounding it?

It sounds as if you are facing the prospect of your whole life improving, not imploding!

How are you making a mistake if he will never change?

I'm sure it is normal to feel scared at this point, but in tne long run, you can't let your life rot living with a man who behaves badly and will never change!

You chose divorce for a reason: the right reason!