Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Should I have another baby?!

2 replies

Bloodybloodyhell · 06/09/2017 22:36

Stupid question.

Of course a group of strangers can't tell me the answer. But I'd appreciate opinions...

Am early 40s. Single Mum. One lovely DC, aged 6 - who is desperate for a sibling.

I'm (reasonably) fit, healthy, have own home (well, fully mortgaged), pretty secure p/t job - and family (though aging) nearby.

Have been hoping for another relationship since separating with DC Dad. All disasters though.
And would love another child - but time really is running out. And I will probably regret not doing it, once it is too late, IFYKWIM.

So. Have been looking online at Danish sperm donors...

The mechanics of it look straightforward, fairly easy and not too pricey.

But of course, it would be very, very tough. Short term, medium and long term. For me, DC1 - and any future DCs.

I'm a bit worried about just physically and emotionally managing. Plus the guilt - is this a fair thing to do? Ot is it selfish?

Plus - my biggest question - what would I say to donor-child, when DC1 happily skips off to see ExH of a weekend. Where is his / her Dad?!

So do I stop wrecking my head, accept that I am truly blessed to have one gorgeous DC - which I know I am - and concentrate on building a great life with him? Or do I throw caution to the wind, whilst I still (hopefully) can - and go for it?

Advice from anyone who has gone through the process would be very much appreciated!

Thanks x

OP posts:
Barbaro · 06/09/2017 22:53

I probably wouldn't as like you say, the kid is going to feel odd when their sibling goes off to their dad and they don't even know who their dad is.

It would be different if you had no children but to raise two differently is going to be challenging.

Don't think it sounds selfish, just difficult. Can you afford another one with just a part time job?

ITCouldBeWorse · 06/09/2017 22:58

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page