My partner and I have been together for 16 months. I have a chronic illness. I'm 29 he's 25. He already has a child from past relationship. He has MS and an addiction to cannabis (yes addicted). Which has caused problems for us due to mood swings and him being awful at times. Then when hes good, he's amazing and we are brilliant. When he's bad he's horrid.
I often thought he had sociopathic tendencies. However I always trusted him with regards to fidelity and other women.
Especially when we were together. Then we had a break 3 months ago for 8 weeks. My decision as he d been vile for a week and I was so fed up felt rejected. During that time I went and dated another guy who I had known for years. We just kissed and went on dates. Anyway during that time I discovered I was pregnant to my ex and ended it with the new guy. When I got in touch with my ex he met me and he was delighted about it all. Then a week later I miscarried and it was traumatic.
He then wouldn't make our relationship official and kept me on the back burner. I felt he was stringing me along and wasnt being himself. I kept asking why and hia excuse was his ms,his moods, his life, depression and that it wasn't me or anyone else.
Anyway,4 weeks ago he came to me and said he wanted to make a go. He started being overwhelmingly good to me (lovebombing?). He apologised for everything and said let's make a fresh start. He went to docs to see about counselling too.
Anyway yesterday was awful. I decided to go through his phone. Something i've never done before. I then saw he has been messaging another woman. I messaged her from my phone to ask and immediately she text him.
Then I knew something was up. I then got into convo with her and she told me they kissed and had met during our break(she knew nothing about me) and then also when we had been back together but only as friends and were going on bloody play dates with their kids. I was sick at this point. Last time was over 3 weeks ago they went on an outing. Whilst I was none the wiser and he has been texting me rhe whole day. Came to see me that night and told me he was with his friend john during the day and his daughter. Utter lies. She told me he pursued her but she only wanted to be friends after the kiss.
I then found he had been on tinder during the end of our break and we had been meeting up aswell. Daily he was in contact with me during the last four weeks of the break.
Also saw he had messaged other girls which appeared friendly but I could tell he was flirting.
I feel sick. I never had him down as a cheat. He's a liar. He even used against me that I met another guy during the break, he used that for.weeks and played the poor me card and made out he was innocent and has never even looked at anyone else.
Anyway I went nuts. He went nuts as he was found out. He has apologised but is acting like he's sulking.
The past three weeks has been great and I thought we were on our way to happiness and judging by his phone he hasnt messaged anyone the past three weeks. He said he made a conscious decision three weeks ago to focus on us and not message anyone and cut contact with that woman.
Im heartbroken I really am. It's time to walk isn't it?