OW looking after my DC after 6 weeks together?!

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It might be more like 8 weeks I don't know exactly but either way that feels too soon. He's only known her since June. It was only while he played football but he hasn't seen them for 3 weeks and he could have just not gone football. It feels really disrespectful I have never met her. He must feel he can trust her. He has made out like I'm a drama starter so she has blocked me on everything. I don't know it feels all wrong the whole situation which i suppose i have to get used to at some point. what are your opinions ?

He just thinks they're both in police why would i possibly worry. It's more the unknown. I'm sure she's lovely. I just feel like if he was more open and she hasn't blocked me I wouldn't feel isolated. I suppose when your so used to being their care give 24/7 for weeks on end and then u find out the ow has been looking after them it's bound to make anyone feel anxious and upset. Id like to tell him how i feel face to face like an adult. I find the whole blocking very childish. But I don't know what he's told her. It's because I sent a favebook message to the other OW asking if she was fucking my husband and I messaged her boyfriend telling him the situation because we were actually together at the time so I did cause abit of drama.

No, they caused the drama by having an affair while they were both in relationships.

I imagine she's soon going to get fed up of looking after his children while he's off enjoying himself though. Sounds like he thinks that women should be doing the hard bits of parenting if he wants you to go back when he has the kids so that he can go to the gym. If she has any sense she will wise up to that.

I don't understand why it's legally ok for men to behave like such dickheads, particularly with such little regard for their children. I know it is legal but I don't get why it should be. A couple of my friends are in truly awful situations brought on solely by their ex husbands' infidelity.

Ime very double standards when court were involved. My new bf was police checked but I was refused even the name of exh new gf!!
Very wrong to me when I knew my bf never had my dc unsupervised and ob I trusted him. But new gf was bathing and putting to bed my dc while ex was at work!!
He got his commupance when a swinging party went wrong and she married his mate!!

Haha yess just the stories i love to hear. How amusing. He's threatened to police check any of my potential boyfriends as he said he can't trust mg judgement in men....well quite clearly. The only other fella I've been involved with was a policeman also but he has ignored that part and still says he has concern for who I may meet. He baffles me.

As a new girlfriend she probably thinks that its lovely he's trusting her and involving her with the kids and she probably feels quite special rather than looking at the bigger picture. Perhaps that will become apparent to her as time goes on.

He sound very controlling, I would just as upset as you are. Try and let it go.

Some people love showing off around other people's children in a way that they're trying to say "we should have a child"

They both sound well suited.

If he can do this to you OP, you know you're better off without him

Yeah I know it. He is having a mental breakdown swearing at me because I dare have plans tonight even though it's his time with them. I've had to rush out the house incase he comes back when I'm there.

The latest is me saying that I have plans to stay the night elsewhere. I told him nicely I explained that I don't get to go anywhere at night and that although he claims he can't sleep when he's at mine I didn't ask for this situation so he can put himself out this time. Well he's kicked off bit style called me a C**t and has said he'll be taking them to stay at his girlfriend's!

Its because he has them at mine because he stays at his girlfriends. So i said unless i have plans or work at night ill come home and he can leave. But he rarely has them so i have wanted to make the most of catching up with friends and seeing my fella when im not at work. (I work night's) so i had to tell him i wouldn't be coming home atall . Today is his last day with them. I reckon itll be the last he has them for more than a few hours in the day. Hes not liked having control.