Hi there,
My ex left me in March. Totally out of the blue. I was so happy and thought we'd get engaged this year. He left me in the middle of a job redundancy, my dad having triple heart bypass and me undergoing treatment for a cervical spine injury. My life took a nose dive that's for sure.
He left me because he doesn't want marriage or kids. Although 18 months together and he never mentioned this and we even talked about engagement on our anniversary. So i now believe it to be a cop-out.
He suffered a major motorbike accident five months into our relationship and spent the next 10 of it on crutches having three operations on his leg. I nursed him through each op... everything right down to even emptying his commode at home! In hospital, I physically lifted him onto the toilet and stroked his back whilst he tried to poo through constipation after too much morphine!!! I thought this man was going to be my husband.
He got the all-clear from the hospital end of January and then 8 weeks later I was dumped. I now think that I was a crutch to him, figuratively and literally. He used me as a nurse maid .
The sad joke is that he is now seeing someone who has a toddler. But he's also back on Tinder, so can't be that happy with her. Still hurts me bitterly.
After the break up, I immediately went into panic mode and could not function. I had also lost my job so has no steer in life. Nothing to focus on. I spent two months hiding under my duvet. But I tried to move on so eventually I tried dating again. Met a nice man on POF, but no spark at all on first date. I carried on seeing him in the hopes a connection would develop. People told me to give it time. Fast forward three months and I've just broken up with him last week. No connection came. We just morphed into friends. I thought ages about staying with him because I'm terrified I'm too old now for marriage and kids. Every day is a day wasted. I get more depressed with every day. I'm having counselling.
I'm looking for positive stories about meeting husbands later in life as I just don't think that's going to happen for me now. I don't know how to meet anyone either. I work in magazine publishing which is a female dominated industry. After my redundancy from a top publisher in London, I now work at a local publisher. But I'm even thinking about having a total career change and getting a job in the city (I live just outside London) in banking or becoming a receptionist in a law firm or something. Just to widen my chances of meeting men!!
Any news advice will be received with so much gratitude. How and when did you meet your husband?
I was 34 in August.
I wish I knew what I did wrong :(
Thanks xx