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Scared flat chest will put off new partner

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Flatchest · 04/09/2017 21:30

I'm going away for the weekend with my new partner, it will be the first time we've slept together or that he's seen me nude. I've been on my own for three years and have lost my confidence sexually. I'm slim with very small boobs, around a 28/30a/b if that. Im so worried that he will be disappointed when he undresses me. I've deliberately only worn lightly padded bras to avoid giving a false impression but I'm so worried. I struggle to get nice matching sexy underwear to fit. How can I get a quick confidence boost?

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cakecakecheese · 05/09/2017 09:01

A male friend was telling me about a woman he was sleeping with and really liked but she wouldn't let him see her boobs and he was disappointed because 'I love boobs, big, medium, small, pert, droopy, stretch marks, scars, don't care' it took me a while to get him off that subject

So yeah he'll just be thrilled to see you naked but you did ask for a confidence boost so maybe have a look at sex positions that might help with that www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/g5699/best-sex-positions-for-women-with-small-breasts/

BR62Y · 05/09/2017 10:19

As a bloke, I would never even think about this. You are literally worrying about nothing.

HotNatured · 05/09/2017 13:07

I don't think men really care that much about boobs anymore ! They seem to be a bit 'out of fashion'!

Men seem to be all about the bum

And anyway a lot of men prefer smaller boobs, he wouldn't be with you if he thought you were Kelly Brook. I'm sure he's fully aware of your body shape.

Have a great weekend !

Holidayhooray · 05/09/2017 13:11

You are literally going to go from nothing to sex?

Have you not enjoyed one another before now and he realised that you are small of bust?

ravenmum · 05/09/2017 13:42

Going from nothing to sex during a weekend away ... also seemed a bit surprising to me (what if he says something weird on the way there and you don't want to share a room with him?) but maybe they don't get much privacy in their usual living arrangements?

broodynotbonkers · 05/09/2017 15:20

First of all, from one flat chested insecure woman to another, I'm sorry that you feel so worried about this! The struggle is real.

If he says he loves the fact you're so dainty compared to him then he probably thinks of your small boobs as a great thing. Plenty of blokes actually prefer them.

I bet you any money he's into slimmer women and that he's physically attracted to you because of your figure and not in spite of it!

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Flatchest · 05/09/2017 17:31

Thanks for the wonderful replies, you've made my day. I've known him four months and fancied him rotten but he only told me how he felt recently. He'd been too scared to initiate getting physical because my last relationship that ended three years ago was abusive and he was petrified of rushing me and me ending it as a result. We've only been physical for a couple of dates but I'm now really looking forward to this weekend and have bought myself a nice lacy lightly padded bra that I feel OK in.

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Flatchest · 05/09/2017 17:33

I shall report back 😇😈😇

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Kindoline · 05/09/2017 17:45

Literally no men or ever had sex with have cared about me being flat chested. They really really don't care!

I laugh them into bed and keep them there with my skills

Quirkydamsel · 05/09/2017 18:11

Have the most wonderful time OP !

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Flatchest · 05/09/2017 18:36

It's been three plus years since I last had sex and then it was with my horrible ex who was only concerned about himself in bed. I feel very rusty as to what a genuinely kind man wants in bed the first time he sleeps with a new partner.

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HelenaDove · 05/09/2017 18:59

Mine are 32HH after weight loss They were 46G. So they do droop. (thanks for that PP) but i wouldnt tolerate someone who thought they were anything less than fantastic.

PacificDogwod · 05/09/2017 19:00

Do nothing you don't want to do, and enjoy everything that you do!

Have a lovely time; you sound very excited which is lovely x.

museumum · 05/09/2017 19:02

I'd kill for small boobs - mine look like cow udders 😢

Very few people have a perfect body and those that do probably don't think so.

Sallystyle · 05/09/2017 22:40

I am small chested. Probably the same size as you. You are not flat chested if you are an A/B

I used to hate mine but I love them now. They are round and perky and don't get in the way. When my husband saw them for the first time he thought they were amazing. If he didn't then he wouldn't have got to see them again.

Small breasts are just as lovely as bigger breasts. I believe that if you really like someone those things just don't matter anyway and if they do matter than he isn't for you. I don't imagine for one moment he will think anything negative at all.

Have a lovely time

Madeyemoodysmum · 05/09/2017 22:47

Op. I'd love a pair of dainty boobs I could never get get make again with my massive Norks drooping down ughhhhh I'm VERY jealous.

I'm sure your bf will be delighted with yours

ravenmum · 06/09/2017 08:21

Didn't mean to say that droopiness is a bad thing before - it's a side-effect of having the big boobs the media loves so much, that's all - my point was really that if you have small ones you don't absolutely need a bra to keep them in place!

Lovemusic33 · 06/09/2017 10:49

I'm sure he won't be disappointed. I am a B cup and I have flat nipples, whilst with dh I often kept my bra on during sex, I had no confidence because I thought my boobs were different to everyone else's. Since being single I have undressed in front of several men and all has been fine, in fact I have been told by several that my boobs are perfect. A lot of men don't actually like big boobs.

HelenaDove · 06/09/2017 15:07

No worries raven

Being smaller would make it easier for bra buying. PITA.

FinallyHere · 06/09/2017 15:46

what a genuinely kind man wants in bed

The decent ones want to please their partner, the rest are not worth your time.

The sooner you feel comfortable enough to laugh about this with him, the better. How would it be if you mentioned your fears to him in advance. You could share insecurities and maybe enjoy the weekend a bit more, having got that part out of the way. Hope you have a lovely time.

rosabug · 07/09/2017 19:08

get one of those un-structured, no padding, see through bras in an extra small or teen size. He'll love it - he's clearly into petite women. Wish I could wear one but at 36G it ain't happening!!

HelenaDove · 07/09/2017 20:09

rosa Panache do lovely bras for the big of boob.

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