Dsis still won't see her own daughter.

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I have posted before about this sticky situation, here is a link to the previous thread.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2969243-In-thinking-Dsis-should-put-DN-first?pg=10&order=

Since the final argument in which my sister slapped my niece, they have not seen each other.

SS was involved and are happy with her being with me, so they've taken a back seat. School have been amazing and will continue helping DN when she goes back.

My concern is I know DN is missing her mum and siblings terribly. The only sibling she has saw since this happened is the eldest and that's because he has came round mine.

My sister won't allow niece too see her siblings or herself unless DN apologises to her partner and it has to be a sincere apology face to face. Even if she was to apologise she would want niece remaining with me, apparently there's no "atmosphere" in the house now. I only know this because my brother and father came round and told me. ( I havent told neice this it would break her heart) My sister has blocked my number so me or her daughter can't contact her aswell.

I don't know what I could do to make this better for DN, she misses her mum deeply and has asked me too ask my sister will she be there for DN on her first day back on Wednesday.

Should I go and ask my sister?
If my sister says no, how on earth do I break that to DN.

I honestly don't know where to turn too next

I would tell my sister she is being a complete asshole by not seeing her own daughter. Do you always tread on eggshells around her? Does everyone just try to keep the peace even though she is being completely irrational?

As for your niece tell her to write a letter to her mum and ask but prepare her for disappointment

From looking at your previous thread, your DN is 11 or 12? Please try to get support from CAMHS for her. School may help with this.

My son has suffered similar treatment from his birth mum, who is a textbook narcissist. Are you prepared to fully embrace parenting your DN? It will take enormous emotional resilience and boundless love. If you can't give this (and be very honest with yourself about it) then flag it up to SS that your DN needs to be placed with a foster family instead.

Feel free to PM me if you want to talk more. Parenting a child who is not your own is fucking tricky!

Your sister is a really nasty piece of work.

Your niece will have to learn to put her faith elsewhere, poor kid. Don't try to fix her mum, you can't, and you just set her up for more hurt.

Blocking sibling access. What a stone cold shit.

jeaux I'm trying the soft approach because I don't want burn the bridges. She is my DN mum even though she isn't acting like one.

nottheford I'm 100% prepared too be there for DN. I'm just struggling with how to answer her questions some times. I don't want too slag her mum off or paint her in a bad light. If you don't mind can I PM you maybe you can give me some helpful responses for the questions?

Mrsbertbibby you are right. I never thought she would be capable of being so cold hearted. I don't want DN being any more hurt, but all the options Infront of me lead to DN being hurt.

Your dn could make an application to the court for a child arrangements order to spend time with her siblings? Or you could ?

Would she herself not be too young with applying to the courts? And would I be able to do it on her behalf with me not being her legal guardian. Obviously she resides with me but I have no paperwork stating I'm her guardian or anything.