It's been done before but could do with a boost tonight... tales of finding love and a family later in life?

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My life looks great. Lots of friends, pretty house, at least average on the looks (though Im unfortunately no longer 21!!!), earn good money, mostly enjoy my job. I'm busy and have things to do and can get on with things on my own.

But I am so lonely. I cry most nights about it, even if for ten minutes or so. I am ok on my own, but I'm lonely. Nothing gets rid of the loneliness. I want so much to be in a loving relationship, and despite dating and meeting people, (I guess I could try harder but the morale has sort of gone!), I never have that spark. It's like that will just never happen for me. I'm thirties now (under 35), and it just feels horrible. While i know i am not on my own in feeling this way, it is definitely the case that MOST people are coupled up.

Any stories of it happening later one would be nice to read... xx

*later on not later one!

I'm in the exact same boat, so interested in hearing some positive stories!

Especially as I've just been ghosted by a guy I'd been seeing for 6 weeks 😖

I was absolutely the same, except I hated men due to a previous shitty relationship
I was 37 when I met my now fiancée...we fell head over heals 2 years ago and now have a one year old son. He had to break through my ice queen facade but I promise you I never EVER thought that this would happen to somebody like me x
Don't give up but also never make do . It'll happen when you least expect it and think of all your mates who are in shit relationships who are totally jealous of your freedom x good luck, chin up xx

Honestly, you're in a good position - you have s great life and you don't 'need' someone else. Like usersos says, don't settle. But also, be open to possibility. I was mid-30s and like you a bit jaded on the relationship front when I advertised for a flatmate. Totally not my type, but such a great flatmate.... Took us a year to get together, now have a 20 month old. FWIW my advice is, just work at having a fun life of your own and see what happens!

Yes! I was you! Don't give up- if this could happen to 'resolutely single but very lonely' me it really could happen to anyone. Met my darling partner at work at 36, got together two months later and never looked back. Moved in together and bought DDog the following year, had DD1 the year after that and DD2 last year (I am now 44).

It's been a magical few years and we are getting married next Summer. Wishing you an equally unexpected and exciting future

I met up with an old school mate 4 years ago - 38 single and resigned to child free living. She's now 42 married with a 2.5 year old and 10month old twins

I have a close friend from my baby group days who met her partner at 40 and decided they had no time to waste- married and pregnant within a year and 2 kids by 43.

It can happen and does all the time. The media seems to have a strong interest in making women over 30 feel like they are on the shelf and over 40 as resigned to a lonely life. Not true. My Dm had 6 kids and divorced at 50, dated a series of lovely and not so lovely men and then remarried a wealthy successful American 10 years younger than her.

Fuck the media women, and men live to be 90 now and you can find love and happiness any day of your life 😍

Don't give up. I met DH at works Christmas party. His sister brought him along. I was 37. Lived on my own for years. I enjoyed my life. Went travelling, out with friends. I had DD when I was 40 and got married a year later. It's never too late. I only decided to go to the party at the last minute. Go out and enjoy yourself and never say never.

I met DH online at 32, married at 34, DC1 at 35 and due DC2 in December when I'll be 37.

I met DP online at 36, we've been together five years now. All I can say is nice things do happen. Do hang in there and in the meantime be kind to yourself and don't settle for second best.

I was convinced I'd be alone forever at 34. Was invited to a dating dinner sort of thing with quite a lot of people. Turned it down. The week beforehand I thought 'oh sod it' and went. Met dh that night, asked him out the following week, we had ds the following year and married soon after.

Two things helped: making a list of my minimum requirements for a partner, and the 'oh sod it' when invited somewhere.

the first person you have to love is yourself, then you can spend your life in your own good company!