Lies and exaggerations

[AllStar14]

DP and I have been together for a couple of years, we have DT 7 months and I have DD3 from a previous relationship. I don't know if he has always done this or if it's a recent thing but he exaggerates everything and it's beginning to piss me off. For example we were out yesterday afternoon and he got us a drink each, handed it to me and said "that's a tenner gone" I saw the stall, the drinks were £3 each. This seems petty and pathetic and if this was a one off then I wouldn't think anything of it but it's constant.

I have no idea how much he earns because I don't believe what he says to be honest, he's had a lot of jobs since we met and he claims to earn much more than I would say the jobs would pay. Plus he never has any money so it's just not possible.

The latest thing is him saying the DT have been waking 4-5 times a night and I've slept through it everytime. That's just impossible and I don't know why he is lying? I downloaded an app that records nighttime noise and as expected it's not true.

I haven't confronted him, I never bother because he is always the victim and arguing with him is draining. I'm not sure what to do or where to go from here, seems a silly reason to end a relationship but I can't continue not believing what he says, can I?

I couldn't trust someone who lies so constantly and casually. And about such petty things.

Sounds like he lies to make himself sound better than he is (higher earner, better father because he gets up lots, more generous, etc).

Or, is it to make you feel guilty, like you 'owe him', do you think?

He clearly pisses you off and you don't believe a word what he says. Why are you together?

he is a textbook abuser

At a basic level I'd find him less attractive with each lie. Not good.

My ex is a massive exaggerator about anything to do with time or numbers and it's fucking irritating.
So for example he'd say "the rug got ruined so it'll cost me £700 to replace" (it's from dunelm!)
Or "I've got a gym session at 12.00 so it'll take me half an hour to get there, swim changed so I'll pick DS up at 4pm" errrr the gym is literally a 5min walk from his house, 1 min in the car
I don't understand why he does it but it makes me want to claw his eyes out

My ex was EXACTLY like this!!! He used to lie all the time to either make himself look good or hard done by. He would tell me he got up 5 times in the night with out youngest but I knew it was once!!! He would also exaggerate how much things cost.
He was generally obsessed with money too and always said we couldn't afford things when we could!!
He actually got worse over the years and often tried to gaslight me. I would tell him things then he would deny I had told him.
This is a serious problem and will get worse. I would get rid of him!!!

The lies got bigger. he did some pretty fraudulent stuff against my will. I had to break up with him, I felt ashamed and thought prison could be close.

I honestly don't know why we are together at this point. He also denies I've told him things or says things and later denies ever saying them, which is why I don't argue with him it's exhausting and gets us nowhere. He is the same with time aswell. I don't want this anymore. Thanks for your replies, I needed to hear from others that it's a real problem.

My ex did this too, got to the point that I just stopped asking him anything as didn't believe anything he said. Made me lose all respect for him so the relationship broke down. Thinking back though I do wish I'd called him out on it more often....

Hi OP, I do this is a serious problem. I have no idea why people do this. My ex still does it now and it still annoys me. For example, he loves to plead poverty and I;m pretty sue he doesn't pay me the full amount of maintenance. I once dropped the kids off for the weekend and he said to them "We won't be going anywhere this weekend as I've only got £12 left in my account". When I collected them on the Sunday he went out all day drinking!! Not even sure he realises his lies are that obvious!! Pathetic.