Getting married next month - no sex

[ohshiz]

Should I cancel the wedding?

I'm the one not wanting sex. It's not him. It's me. I've never enjoyed it. Can't be arsed frankly.

He says he's gotten use to it but I can't go through with this can I? It's not fair to him.

In fairness fuckyoulinda - OP has tried to discuss this with him and he diverts. Probably why she's now thinking of calling off the wedding because of all the reasons you listed. I don't think it's for the want of trying on her part.

He knows the issue

He says he loves you and says it very seriously.

I'd accept that personally

You are quite different (sexually) and he is accepting of that.

Can you not extend him the same courtesy?

Is there a reason why this has come up now so soon before the wedding? It sounds as though it has been an issue for a long time.

Honestly no long term this is very unlikely to go the distance without something changing. He shouldn't have to give up a sex drive any more than you have the right to say 'that's not for me'. So if you've tried various things such as changing contraceptives and counselling, give a lot of thought to how you'd feel in 5 years if he's either asking to go elsewhere for sex, or more likely you find he's been to escorts or having an affair. Is an open marriage something you'd consider?

If you call the wedding off now, no doubt it will be painful. If you go ahead and it collapses, it will be much much more painful.
You have really tried discussing it (well done op) and his response is avoidance. Avoidance of the problem is never a recipe for success.