I'm lost and keep crying

[Mummybear26]

Basically I'm with my partner who I've been with for over 4 years we are expecting I can't sleep though, I had this friend (male) he was my world knows my life and always a pick me up kinda person, he got his gf pregnant too the issue is I think I'm in love with him and I've lost my chances , each song that plays reminds me of him , certain things I say remind me of him , we just clicked all the time , I lay of a night crying, wondering how he is or what his doing I really do believe I love this guy I'm making myself so unhappy and sad 😭 We no longer have contact and it hurts

Did anything ever happen with your friend?
Why don't you speak anymore?
What's the relationship like with your partner?

Relationship with my partner is okay atm i just focus more on my son and this pregnancy , everything my partner does lately just don't seem enough, yes things happened with my friend along time ago he had those feelings and I bottled it and got with my partner as I was scared of settling down 😔 I didn't think it would last or get serious, we don't talk anymore because his feelings were too strong and I broke him but now his all I think about, even dreaming about him i just feel like I let a good one go x

But you settled down with your partner so you did want to settle down, just not with your friend?

Maybe try to focus on your partner; he must be a nice man too? You're having a baby and starting a family with him so that relationship deserves some attention. If you really feel you can't be with him then you need to be honest with him.

Sounds like your friend has moved on and it's not really fair to disrupt his relationship or his life now.

Pregnant and hormones in turmoil. Don't panic. Take deep breaths.

Use distraction techniques to deal with your thoughts of the friend. Every time he comes to mind, use a key word to reject the thought (eg"No!" or "Knickers!") and immediately think of, or do, something else.

Full of good advice, me. I don't always follow it. The above does work, though, I've used it in the past.

I wouldn't become a home wrecker so to speak because I respect him and think highly of him far to much to do such a thing, I can tell his happy.

It wasn't so much of settling down it was the flowers and the laughs we had so classed it as the odd bit of fun and 4 years later here we are I never expected to go this far and neither did he but couple of months ago he went astray and I said I could forgive cos he was honest and upfront I was already pregnant when this happened just didn't know

Pregnancy hormones are driving me bonkers lol same dream over and over don't get me wrong I love my partner dearly but I'm starting to think am I in love with him 🤔 My hormones are everywhere right now 'sighs'

It sounds like you've forgiven your partner because you're pregnant but it's obviously and understandably affecting how you feel about him, so thinking that you should have gone with your friend because he would have treated you better.

That could possibly be correct I don't like to think things over and over but just lately I can't stop myself from thinking of my ex friend, I did forgive him at the time but had to get away for few weeks (Spain) come back early cos I felt ill and found out I was pregnant, I just feel stuck in a rut 😔 I want what's best for my children