Feel pretty crap. Yet another relationship ended!

[Farontothemaddingcrowd]

Since the break up of my marriage I've been dumped 3 times in succession. I have just tonight had to end a v brief 3 month thing because he went all distant and when I asked him, he said he was unsure of his feelings. I said that wasn't good enough for me and that I didn't want to carry on. It was the right thing but I feel crappy . It's hard not to think there's something wrong with me. Though I know there isn't.

Sorry to hear that. I never have any luck either xx

Sorry Kelly. I think I'll probably give up now. Maybe look for a nice fwb when I feel up to it. I'm done.

My last few since my ex have just been casual. Wasn't looking for anything serious to soon

It's hard not to think - what am I doing wrong

Probably nothing! I'm sure it's them

it is always painful, like loosing somebody.

It seems easy for some people, meeting the right one

Yeah some of my mates have been with guys for ages and don't understand why I get through so many lol. Everyone is different though

I do think I'm repeating some kind of unhealthy pattern somehow. I think I'm just meant to be on my own

It sucks. My husband died three and a half years ago and Boyfriend of two years just ended things. Devastated by fresh loss but getting back on the horse - you just need to find the right person.

I've been told by a friend that I have 'terrible taste in men'! Not that most of them are not up to scratch, but she meant they are not suitable for me, and not someone prepared to commit and care long term - she thinks my standards might be too high. Maybe it's something like that with you, OP.
The thing is, I've no idea how to genuinely change 'standards'. That goes for being attracted to bery nice but unavailable/partnered men, which obviously doesn't even get off the ground.

I'm sorry to hear that grobags. I think my standards are too low if anything. I don't subscribe to the idea that there is someone for everyone and I think I'm going to try to feel more at ease with the little life I have. I may be lonely at times but that's ok, I think.

Far, I admire your honesty and courage actually. Far from putting yourself down, I think you should see the good side to this - someone with lower self esteem might have out up with a guy saying he wasn't sure and might have hung on in vain waiting to him to become more keen. Instead, you had enough self respect to draw a line. It can take years to find someone you really connect with. Rejoice, you're free, single...you can take your time to find someone perfect for you instead of living with second best. I wish you luck and happiness.

Thanks dappled. It's only because I allowed a previous relationship to drag on too long that I told myself I'd never ever do it again. Poor relationship decisions are detrimental to self esteem and assertive choices ultimately enhance it I think.

Awake feeling horrible.

I'm proud of you. You ended it. As a pp said I would have hung on in til the grim death (actually not these days but I did for far too much of my adult life)
You know you'll be alright don't you? You just have to go through the feeling crappy phase.

Thank you. I will be alright. It's just a bit crappy right now.

It's horrible going through that initial crap phase. Take your time. Try to treat yourself as gently as if you had flu. Take to your bed if necessary, cosset yourself. Steer clear of certain people whose relationships might rub your nose in your current predicament. Then, later, you can emerge having healed a little. It does take time to find the right person and you honestly are better off waiting. But appreciate it may feel painful atm. You will get through and better things lie ahead.