Sudden ED - physical or psychological?

[Windytwigs]

Happened in the middle of a bj, we had argued earlier in the evening but had made up hours before.
Don't know that much about it. Do know that he's overweight and on meds for high blood pressure, first developed ED about a year ago after us arguing about his past honesty, meds didn't help. Gradually resolved, was absolutely fine for ages, including the previous night. Which is why I'm leaning towards psychological rather than a sudden physical reason right in the middle of things. Anyone with experience of this who has a likely explanation? I don't want to cause further upset or damage by trying to discuss further while he's sensitive about it, but equally don't want to feel I can't discuss difficult subjects with him if he's going to use that as an excuse. If that makes sense.

Are we talking about one singular occasion?

Age?

Early 40s, had some incidences about a year ago during a rough patch, but nothing until this last one.

Could also be an early warning sign for heart disease - early forties , overweight, highblood pressure - erectile failure a classic signal - also check for type 2 diabetes ... Get him checked and lose weight before it gets worse

Worth a trip to the GP to check there are no underlying health issues but ED isn't a binary thing its not a case of not being able to get an erection it's a difficulty in sustaining one, that can be an occasional thing which develops to a regular thing over time.

The good news is that Sildenafil Citrate (the generic name for viagra) works very well and is easy to get via0private prescription through online pharmacies (legit ones) and prescribing pharmacies including some within Asda!! As well as through the GP of course.

I have spinal damage which might be the cause as might stress or marital problems however I know that if I take the drug the problem goes away and whether its a mental or physical issue doesn't matter.

It's totally normal to lose an erection sometimes. A one off even with it having happened a few times a long time ago isn't ED. It could be lots of things, stress, tiredness, distraction, too fast or slow, it just wasn't that good, etc. It's like being close to orgasm as a woman but then just not being able. It happens and I wouldn't overthink it or make a big deal out of it.

Thanks guys, I think the sheer coincidence of each occasion happening when we have argued was what was uppermost in my mind. You're right - maybe all of the above reasons, and it just wasn't doing it for him all of a sudden.