Aaggghh Christ help

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Been talking to someone for 2 weeks, get on great on the phone, but today he sent a face pic that made my eyes widen.
I just don't know if I find him even vaguely attractive. Have arranged to meet on Monday. Don't feel like I can back out as he's so emotionally involved already. FML!
Help!!!!!!

you can back out...of courseyou can
you are an adult and if you do not want to go dont
you never have to speak to the person again, its not as if you will bump into him every day at school gates

but.....attraction is a strange thing...maybe go and see...

I'm petrified.
I feel horrible

He might be extremely charismatic in person. You can't tell by just a photo. I'd give him a chance.

my first date with my DP....i walked in and thought OMG how quickly can i get out of here....i will never want to kiss you...

by end of first course i was charmed, by end of dinner i was bowled over...now 10 yrs later i still fancy the pants off him..

oh dear would he make small babies cry ?

I'm definitely giving it a chance.
How do I deal with it afterwards?
I'll have a couple of weeks to mull over as he's away in the US to work for 2 weeks

wel, go and see how you feel at end of date.
you will know then...if he actually physically repulses you best to be polite but clear at end of date that it was lovely to meet him in person but the spark was just not there for you....you never know how you might feel...

With all due respect who cares if he's emotionally involved? That's his look out, after two weeks of chatting. You owe him nothing at this stage, so if you don't want to meet up, you don't have to.

Have u seen any other photos?

Some people just aren't photogenic but are very charismatic. Go meet him - beauty is just a matter of symmetry- a couple of millimetres to one side or the other, not really that important in the grand scheme of things.

Yes I've seen other photos - this one was just a bit of a shocker

My DD often runs pics of online men by me to get my opinion. Last week I said "He's so not your type!", turns out he so is.

I've met loads of men who I don't find physically attractive straight away but have grown on me over a number of dates.

Is it just an unflattering pic? How does it differ from the others? Can u check him out on Facebook?

He's so emotionally involved after chatting for 2 weeks? Id be running for the hills, whatever he looked like.

Some people photograph hideously but are better looking in reality. And some of the oddest looking people I've met have been models.

Have a date and give him a chance. You don't have to take it further if you don't want to.

Not to burst your bubble, but there is a good chance you might never hear from him again after your first date. The type who gets overly invested before actually meeting you in person is the type who runs hot/cold. Seems like it might apply to you too, a bit?

Really enjoying all the amateur psychology

Don't post on a public forum then?

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You'd do well to heed the warnings of people's experience, that they bother to share, instead of rudely dismissing them?

Like others, it leapt out at me that you didn't want to cancel because of his emotional investment.
That's bad because he simply shouldn't be emotionally invested in you after 2 weeks of talking, and you shouldn't be meeting men you don't want to just so you don't upset them. An amateur and a real psychologist would be interesting in why you're prepared to do the latter.

I'd back out. Anyone who's emotionally involved after 2 weeks is bound to be a wrong un'