DH and I have been married for 18 years and have 3 DC. We are not happy together. He has drunk heavily throughout most of our marriage, but has almost stopped over the past couple of years and has put a great deal into his business, which is beginning to take off. After I had DC3 I stopped working (I was a nurse, but my registration has now expired). He has always resented me for not working and gets very cross about it. DH does not have much of a relationship with our DC. I believe that our DC have been largely untroubled by the difficulties between us, until recently, when DH has got increasingly angry and hostile with me. I find it impossible to speak to him, he verbally 'ties me up in knots' and we never get anywhere. Last week we agreed I would move to my Dad's - 100 miles away - as things were getting worse. DH said he would not leave the house. After having spent a week at my DDad's, I am realising that it is not in my DC's best interests to be here. He has a small house - really only one free bedroom for all of us (although we could 'create' a small amount of space, but it's certainly not ideal). They are starting school next week and I haven't been able to get a school place organised here, plus my DD1 has ASD and can be extremely challenging, which is causing serious problems for my 76 year old dad! I spoke to DH today and said I believe we should return to the family home, at least for the short-term whilst we sort things out, but he is angry and insists that he should be able to stay there. I feel under so much pressure - I really feel sorry for DH and appreciate how difficult it will be for him to move, but I don't know what I can do to help him. He's not answering the phone after we spoke earlier - what should I do?