Husband works nights...

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Anyone else in this position? It's been a hard 6 weeks keeping a 4/5 month old and a five year old quiet while he sleeps during the day!

I go back to work next week, full time, and dreading the whole rush of him handing the kids over to me when I get home, before he rushes off. No idea what we'll do when I have to work late!

Also, he is so grumpy and narky, understandably, but I get really upset sometimes with how he speaks to me and our eldest. And he's just all over the place, forgets whole conversations. Which adds to my stress about organising our lives when I'm at work.

Just looking for moral support from anyone else in the same position!

I worked nights for a while and they really messed me up . For the first while I thought it was ok then couldn't sleep on days off and muddled myself right up , weird sleeping / eating habits ended up leaving for daytime work and felt better for it . Suits some but I found it hard and it made me grumpy . Hard on you too with a little one . Night away just the two of you perhaps ?

Ooh I would love a night away! But still breastfeeding. It's been nearly a year that he's done nights and he's handling it better than he was. Bad day today. He just totally ruined a family day out. Snapping and swearing over everything. His moods are one issue. Like I said, worried about coping when I'm back at work

My husband was on nights for 3 months and I hated it. He was grumpy, tired all the time, everything was centred around his sleeping. I understand how hard it is for them but when you have small children it's not exactly practical. He came off them and we were both relieved. Can he look for another job??

He could do days where he is, but it would be a big drop in pay. And we would have much more childcare to pay for. He can pick up our eldest from school every day and look after the smallest two days a week. Main reason he chose nights. His previous jobs always involved weekends. With this one he just works Sunday-Wednesday nights. So in every other way it works well for us. Just not with the grumpiness and logistics when I go back to work!

My husband was on a night shift one week in three with 4 am starts the other 2 weeks. His body could not adjust with such a stupid shift pattern and the lack of sleep/disruption drove me mad. We endured that for 2 years (money) but work-life balance? Forget it.

My husband does 2 nights every set of shifts. He's amazing at being positive about it and coping on little sleep. I'm still on mat leave at the moment but tend to just take little one out, hang out at my mum's house or just spend the day in town etc. It sucks but is better than trying to keep.quiet all day and stressing that he won't be getting good sleep. He's pretty good on 5-7 hours sleep.and is normally up by 3. Im doing a kit night shift tonight but guaranteed I will whinge a lot more than he does tomorrow!!