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How would you feel about this?

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TwoMummyPigs · 31/08/2017 14:09

I've been with my girlfriend for 6 months and she had a friend for about 5 years. Just after we got together they fell out so I never met this friend myself.

My gf told me how her friend always comes onto her when she is drunk. Says she's always liked her/ asks her out etc. My gf has never reciprocated and they have never kissed or anything. She assures me she has no interest in her but admits that times have gotten rocky before as friend demands alot of attention and acts like they are a couple sometimes in a 'joking way'.

The friend asked my GF to lunch today to catch up. I trust my GF 100%. My line of thought is that they have known each other for years and if my gf wanted anything to happen it would have by now.

When they became friends again we all added eachother on FB and this friend has posted lots of selfies in the last few month but today is the only day she has put a full face of make up on...to meet my gf.

The friend is making a big effort to turn her life around and she seems a nice girl (although she can be selfish)

I guess part of me wonders if I'm being too relaxed. Would you feel ok with your partner meeting a friend who had repeatedly cone onto them over the years (when she was in relationships too)?

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TwoMummyPigs · 31/08/2017 14:23

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Shoxfordian · 31/08/2017 15:16

Not great really but if you trust your girlfriend then you trust her. She's used to managing this friendship and it has to be her decision if she wants to continue it or not.

Wouldn't read too much into the make up selfies really. She could have taken a selfie without make up then put some on and gone out

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TwoMummyPigs · 31/08/2017 15:30

I do trust her. The friend has really hurt her in the past but she's the only friend she really has. Guess i'm feeling protective too. I don't want my gfs life to be opened up to this person again for her to get dumped.

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Shoxfordian · 31/08/2017 15:31

The only friend your gf has or your gf is the only friend she has? Yeah I see what you mean but it has to be her decision. Maybe you can ask to meet the friend in future too so they get to know you and that you're in a solid relationship

Bobbiepin · 31/08/2017 15:36

Its understandable to be uneasy about it but if you trust her then that's the end of the story.

Don't read too much into the make up thing. If this girl has had issues in the past and is trying to sort her life out (so to speak) then it might be a confidence thing or a way to put on a front to your gf to show that she's in control.

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