Similar situation - would love advice

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Hi All,

I'm in a bit of a similar situation and I'd love some advice on how to handle it.

My little sister is getting married next year. About 3 years ago she moved overseas (only a 3.5 hour flight away) as her fiance couldn't move here.

I have one other sister, and all 3 of us are very close. There is a very small age gap between us and no brothers.

My sister decided to have neither of us as bridesmaids, which would be ok for a smaller wedding, but then chose 4 bridesmaids who are all friends. 2 of them she has only known for a few years. 2 friends live overseas and 2 live here so that's not the reason.

I know it's her day and I really am happy for her but I can't help but feel extremely hurt that she chose 4 friends over 2 sisters who she is close to.

She says she wants us to still be involved but in my heart I don't want a consolation prize, I just see myself as a guest.

I don't mean to sound like a bitch but some other opinions would be appreciated.

I think it's understandable you feel a bit hurt, I would. And at the end of the day you only feel that way because you love her & want to be a big part of her special day.. so don't feel bad for feeling that way.

I was very close to SIL.. they decided to get married, just at town hall & only had parents.. I know it was their decision but I was incredibly sad that me & DH weren't there & were just 4 miles up the road, we got invited to drinks afterwards.. although I was a bit of an arse about it at the time & wish now id just been honest about it & said how sad I felt. Their reasoning was if they invited us they'd have to invite aunties etc.. which isn't true & I personally think siblings are important. Still makes me a bit sad when I look at their wedding pics x