Why do I bother?

[WhatsTheP0int]

I have 2 children and a stay at home husband. You might be thinking what have you got to complain about? Well I'm be lucky in some respects but to be honest I hate my life!

My husband is 50 but prefers to act like a teenager one minute and a 70 year old the next. He loves to play computer games and watch videos of other people playing computer games.

The deal was that as I earnt more money he would stay at home and look after the kids until they went to school full time. The kids are now 17 and 10. A few years ago I found him a job that fitted with school hours but a week and 1 day into the job he quit because that last day finished later than it was supposed to.

Since then he's had some medical issues but about a year ago he was signed off by the hospital, so he should be back to a normal life. BUT NO, he wants to carry on as he has done for the last 11 years.

Now onto my daughter. She got good grades in her GCSE's last year and started at college. 2 months into the course she quit because she didn't like it. She then started working for a fast food restaurant but last month quit there because she didn't like it or the way she was treated. She's now lazing around, just like her father. I've sent her loads of apprenticeship job adverts, even helped fill some of them in, bought her interview clothes but she just shows no enthusiasm at all. She thinks that a job will just come to her.

I'm fed up and don't understand why i go to work everyday to earn a decent wage and then get treated like this. I feel unappreciated and wonder why i bother!

It's not even like we have a spotless house, theres loads of odd jobs that the 2 of them could be doing. I pay all of the bills, including new computer games he buys, all the mobile phones and husbands annual prescription. I have to write down a weekly shopping list because he cant be bothered to do it himself.

Sorry for ranting but needed to write some of this down before i go crazy.

He doesnt really talk to me, its just sarky patronising comments all the time.

If i could i would just walk away but i can't. My mum walked away from me when i was 15 and i said i would never do that to my kids. Just dont know how much more i can put up with though.

Thanks for reading

Why are you letting them get away with their bullshit behaviour?? YOU are the one making the money, and that gives you a lot of power. Cancel their phones. Shut down the internet. No spending money. They want to live and behave like children and not pull their weight? Fine! But they will have to face the consequences for that decision. STOP enabling them! Your daughter is being coddled, so what motivation does she have to join the real world? Everything has been handed to her on a silver platter. Also, make sure all of your money goes into a private account only you have access to.

Your husband sounds exactly like my own father. He showed no interest in finding a job when we had all grown up. My mother eventually left him. After she went he started (and carried on) relying upon my sisters for help. He has never changed his behaviour.

Maybe it is time for you to think about your own needs rather than his? Give his some choices and stick to them. It must be very difficult for you. I know my mother was very unhappy.

By staying with this man you have actually allowed your daughter to follow in his footsteps. Sorry if that is harsh. This ridiculous idea that you can't walk away from your kids..... You don't have to walk away from your kids but you DO have to walk away from your useless, layabout husband.
You allow them to behave like this. You earn the money so you can easily control more of the household. Like the pp said, cancel subscriptions and mobile phones. And WHY are you buying his computer games????

Kick him out. You keep the home and kids. He's nothing but a cock lodger.