My birthday

[Faz2015]

I feel a little guilty feeling this but i feel disappointed by Dh.. it's my birthday today... and I really look forward to my birthday ( like a little kid)... this year... today my dh had made no real effort for my birthday... he booked a restaurant ( one we don't particularly like but there was a cheap deal on buy a gift) bought a Tesco cake that he gave to restaurant and got me a bouquet of flowers.. I know it's the thought that counts but I just feel so disappointed at the half hearted last minute dash...

I think I feel really let down because im a sham and im always buying presents for birthdays and xmas and arranging things for everyone.. and this is the only day for me and my dh couldn't even be bothered...
We have been having a lot of issues this year so I thought he would put in a bit more thought in for my day... I guess not... so that's that...

First of all, Happy Birthday! Second of all, I totally understand how you feel. One day where you're made to feel special isn't too much to ask. I'm sorry.

Happy birthday OP

Happy birthday lovely I'm sorry men are twats at times xxx

Sorry to hear you feel sad.

I will say that no man has ever bought me a cake or given me flowers on my birthday! And certainly hasn't had a restaurant put a cake on for me etc. I think that sounds lovely tbh.

Happy birthday!

Happy birthday op, I'm sorry he hasn't made you feel special. Men can be thoughtless, my young kids were upset this year as they were looking forward to singing and birthday cake on my birthday and it never came as dh didn't think of it. I didn't have a great birthday either but for different reasons. When you're someone who puts a lot of thought into everyone else's it's disappointing when the thought isn't reciprocated.

I think it sounds lovely .
We're broke so he usually bakes me a cake and sings happy birthday with the kids. I get to stay in bed and have breakfast in bed.
I love it but to many others it's probably not enough.

I was listening to some of the teachers at my dd nursery talk the other day about their birthdays and how they had to start dropinghints ans basicallyremindthem you could tell one of them was sad about it. I think its sad so many women seem an after thought on their bdays .tell him how you feel and being a man isnt an excuse not to remember or half arse it. My husband always puts a lotof effort into my bday and ive started to realise thats not the norm .

Thank you ladies for your kind words and wishes...

I am not upset that he didn't get me abutting or the amount of money he spent... it's that I was a lasy minute thought and that he didn't have time... my birthday didn't come up all of a sudden he had the whole month of august...
I actually asked him to bake me a cake but again he didn't have time...

I spoke to him this morning that I always buy everyone's xmas( I even buy my own) Father's Day, birthday presents and I just wanted him to go and buy me something himself. He got arsy said it's never enough And that I can go buy something myself if I want And then stormed out of the house..

Again I know he spent £30 on food and flowers so it's not about that... I'm just sad that if he had thought of me he could have made time to bake me a cake ( he baked a cake at 11pm last night for his work) didn't even get a kiss or a hug... instead of making it seem like all I wanted was a present...and he just didn't have time for it..

Gret8scott... I did peace hints I even went as far to ask him if he got my present?? Where we were going for dinner?? I know I shouldn't but I love birthdays...I don't have parents or siblings and when my parents were alive they used to make it so special for me... it's my fault as I had expectations from him

I would stop making the efgort for him. Im like a child on birthdays and xmas. My dp doesnt get it and i feel it would be nice if he could arrange something special for me. I go all out on birthdays.