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No birthday present from dh, should I be so pissed off??

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bunny3 · 01/04/2007 23:44

I'm furious. No present whatsoever (numersous hints from me over last few weeks btw). I feel so disappointed that dh cant even get to a shop to buy me a token gift of some sort. Havent spoken to him all day and am plannig to sleep on the sofa tonight. Have I lost the plot or am I entitled to be pissed off??

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redfaceticklishfeet · 01/04/2007 23:48

No, not lost the plot. That stinks.

hunkermunker · 01/04/2007 23:48

Did he mention your birthday at all?

Carmenere · 01/04/2007 23:49

You are entitled to be peeved. It is infantile and unacceptable for your partner to forget your birthday. However sulk for a short time and next year don't depend on hints and just organise something lovely for yourself.

kittypants · 01/04/2007 23:49

id be shocked if my husband knew i had a birthday.
is it today?happy birthday if it is.

catsmother · 01/04/2007 23:49

Absolutely.

Has he actually mentioned your birthday at all today ? ...... am just trying to think why he would be so crass, like maybe he's stupid enough not to know what date it is today or something.

More to the point, does he know why you haven't spoken to him all day ...... and do you mean literally, am afraid I wouldn't have been able to keep my mouth shut ......

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bunny3 · 01/04/2007 23:50

Glad you agree! Dh does sod all around the house (a workaholic) and I hoped that today he might show his damned gratitude for all I do. I am so so cross that he made no effort whatsoever (crap Clintons card from him was all I got).

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hunkermunker · 01/04/2007 23:52

Have you said anything to him?

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bunny3 · 01/04/2007 23:52

gosh, posts crossed! Yes, I have ignored him all day since telling him he's an arse. He knows it's my birthday, I told him a week ago if he was stuck with ideas for a pressent, then vouchers and a couple of hours to myself would be fab. That aint difficult but he still didnt manage it. I am really disappointed, he seems to think so little of me.

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catsmother · 01/04/2007 23:53

Ah right, so he did know then.

He's a thoughtless idiot IMO.

Don't bother on his birthday (which I know is easy to say and a bit childish. Better that you get to the bottom of why he thinks you deserve no effort and/or attention on one day a year).

threelittlebabies · 01/04/2007 23:54

Not unreasonable, but please don't sleep on the sofa...tell him to sleep there

hunkermunker · 01/04/2007 23:54

If you've ignored him all day, after telling him he was an arse, is there a chance he DID have something for you, but didn't feel like giving it to you?

ucm · 01/04/2007 23:55

Clintons cards are expensive

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bunny3 · 01/04/2007 23:56

for his birthday 9fe weeks ago) I bought him a day's package at Chewton Geln helath spa. He had the facilities to use all day plus a massage etc. I happily looked after the children so he could really relax and enjoy hid day. I really thougth he could muster up a few Next vouchers and an offer to look afterthe kids for a few hours.

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bunny3 · 01/04/2007 23:57

ucm, expensive and naff!!!
hunker, he didnt get me anything. I know that. He's crap at that sort of thng. No romantic surprises up his sleeve, trust me, I know.

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hunkermunker · 01/04/2007 23:59

Try saying "It makes me sad that you don't think enough of me to organise something nice for my birthday" rather than "you're an arse"?

Dior · 01/04/2007 23:59

Message withdrawn

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bunny3 · 02/04/2007 00:01

but "you're an arse" just sounded so right at the time!!!

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hunkermunker · 02/04/2007 00:02

Well, yes, I can understand that! But it might not get you a pressie [thinks long-term]

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bunny3 · 02/04/2007 00:02

dior, I shall, oh how i shall.

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dumbymummy · 02/04/2007 00:03

Do you love your husband, or is this one piece of crap too far?

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bunny3 · 02/04/2007 00:08

I adore my husband. I love him and hope he loves me. But (big but) we think so differently on some issues. Presents are of huge importance to me, not on a materialistic level but because a great presnet can affirm so much. Dh doesnt understand why they are so important and thinks a crap mug from Clintons should suffice.

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dumbymummy · 02/04/2007 00:13

I can emphasize. Had the same problem myself a few years back. In the end, I stopped buying dh presents. Still don't. Have noticed lately though, that he buys them for me!

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bunny3 · 02/04/2007 00:16

Yes, next year (and xmas) I shall buy him nothing. I spent £000s on his birthday presnt this year, next year he'll get sod all! I feel better already!

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dumbymummy · 02/04/2007 00:17

Sorry! Misspelled word, and too tired to correct. I meant empha - (sympathetic), I'm almost there .... I'm nearly there .. bollocks.

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bunny3 · 02/04/2007 00:17

I knew what you meant!!! and, yes, bollocks!

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