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Discovered partner is gay

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Kathy17 · 29/08/2017 19:44

Hello Im feeling raw n devastated im hopin writin it will help me move on.On 25th last friday I discovered my not so true love was in a gay relationship.I do early shifts on friday my daughter was unwell so I couldnt go to work,I normally leave my phone at home for kids to play on apps.at 7.30 am my phone rang it was a man he was shocked to hear my voice was abusive to me.Wanted to know who I was was so nasty to me.He then told me his was deans partner n hadnt he told me.He even laughed at me.Told me he had HIV....
I was in shock hung up went straight to my partner who was in bed told him about the call.Went away hopin hed get up n sort the situation.He took awhile in fact to get up knowin what had happened.He denied it lol but wasnt very shocked or insulted showed no emotion.Wasnt even bothered the man had been so vile n nasty.Alarm bells n tight knot feelin in my gut said the truth.I told him to leave he did didnt defend himself at all.Im left scared hurt destroyed he was the one who helped me to have faith in relationship when I didnt trust.I have always needed to keep walls up as Ive been cheated on b4.With dean I actually trusted him.I am left to pick up the mess n cope n not able to greive.I was supposed to get hiv test done today but kept cryin n goin outside would make it worse.Plan is tomorrow mornin.im so very lost lonely 😑

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onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad · 29/08/2017 19:48

You poor love. What a horrible situation but it is so not about you - it's about his sexuality - I know it must feel horrible at the moment. You sound lovely. Just take each moment at a time and each day at a time. Sending hugs.

Kathy17 · 29/08/2017 20:23

No its because of me he had an affair

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wowbutter · 29/08/2017 20:28

I think your partner had an affair because he likes cock, and was too weak to tell you properly.

Kathy17 · 29/08/2017 20:29

Im not bothered by sexuality its the affair part

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Kathy17 · 29/08/2017 20:29

He is a dickhead thats why

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squirreltrap · 29/08/2017 20:32

kathy and dean

You've put some quite identifiable info on here. Are you ok with this before this thread gets going?

Melabela10 · 29/08/2017 20:34

I'm sorry to hear OP...
Don't worry too much about HIV as that man could just lie to anger you

Angelf1sh · 29/08/2017 22:11

The hiv part sounds made up to scare you. The whole phone call sounds contrived, like he was trying to cause trouble. Are you sure it's true?

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