Just interested really as DH apologised for what he said but I wondered if he said it instead of being honest about what he really thought. To explain - I had been sorting DD out after a trip to the beach & had just made my tea so when DD called down that she had accidentally done a wee on her bedroom carpet, I asked if DH could see to it. He said he would do it in a bit & that was fine ( he didn't mention that he was doing some work & I wouldn't have guessed as he is off this week). I didn't say anything else about it but then he suddenly said " Typical that it has to be my responsibility when I'm working". I then got annoyed because to say that was totally unnecessary. He even felt he had to defend himself for working on a Bank Holiday but I hadn't said anything negative about that, just that it was a pity. I sometimes think he is feeling guilty about stuff or in this case didn't want to do what I'd asked him but instead of being honest, he ends up having a go. He even said he knew there would be hell to pay if he told me he was too busy to do it. - well, I'm not like that at all!
We talked about it later & he said as soon as he'd said what he did, he apologised & he didn't know why he'd said it.
Is this passive aggressive or just poor communication? ( I do tend to miss apologies & then " go off on one", telling DH how I feel lots of times where once would be enough)