Am I being insensitive? (ManFlu)

[lifesteeth]

My partner comes to stay with me and my kids on a weekend. Last weekend he came over "ill" and spent most of his time moping around, this weekend he was much worse, yesterday he had headache all day (so we had to faff around going to the supermarket for him some headache tablets) and then he started saying he was cold all the time and turning the heating up (this is my house remember and I kept telling him I was too hot) and today he's been a nightmare, sniffling, coughing, curling up on the couch, turning the heating on full blast, we had to faff around this morning going to buy lockets, now he's saying he needs hayfever tablets, he's had a face like death warmed up all day and when I went to get a bath earlier I returned to find him laying across the couch (with his shoes on and his hood up etc and as he was getting ready to go home he layed his coat over the radiator saying it needed to warm up before he went outside , I'm very short on sympathy at the best of times but this weekend he's been doing my head in, he's like a little girl...it's so unmanly.

He's left quite angry at me because I'd been waiting to watch a film all day and as it started he decided it was time to go and so started moping around collecting his things and making as much noise as possible and rather than get up and make a fuss of him leaving I just sat watching the film (or tried to at least).

So am I being unsensitive or would this have annoyed you?

No, you not being unsentitive.

I had this once with DH, i got so cross with the sniffing (sorry pet hate), why to men have to be reminded to blow their noses. I through the box of tissues at him and told him to grow it's a cold and get on with it, like i have to.

Now when he has a cold he sorts out his own medicines and tissues and stays in his office out of my way.

I can't bear it when my dh is 'ill'. I've lost count of the number of times he's had flu this year. I'm currently enjoying the bed to myself as I've banished him to the spare room on the top floor. All I can hear is constant coughing and spluttering. He can't understand why I'm not sympathetic when he's ill. I would be, if he wasn't ill so often.

Lifesteeth.
Read your post and sympathised with you, but laughed aswell . Why is it when our husbands are ill, they expect the same sympathy of us that they probably got from their own mothers!!? My husband recently broke his toe and has spent the last week limping around trying to get every last drip of sympathy out of me that he can (which didn't amount to very much, I just run out and use up all my sympathy on my kids, I mean you do don't you?). They just don't 'do' colds do they. Christ, my husband blows his nose and even wants sympathy about the contents of his tissue shoved when shoving it in my face...........nice

Thank god for that...

You know I've been suffering bad headaches now for over 2 years, constant trips to the doctor and Neuro Doc and they insist it's vascular tension and that massage should help. My headaches have been almost unbearable this weekend so I asked him to lightly massage my head whilst he watched TV...not too much to ask surely? so he did...he half heartedly poked at my head until it got too irritating for me to bear.

On a night out a few months ago we were half way down a busy 'pub crawl' on a freezing cold saturday night, this is a long main road with numerous bars on each side of the road...so we gets half way down it, I'm rushing to get into the next place asap so I didnt freeze to death and he decided...at 10pm at night that he needed hayfever tablets in order to enjoy the rest of the night and actually expected me to walk all the way back to the beginning of the road in my uncomfortable shoes in the freezing cold for some bloody hayfever tablets .

And last summer he saw me struggling in the wild forest that is my garden, rapidly becoming sun burnt and turned to go on the ps2 in the living room rather than help me in any way...excuse? hayfever the fact that I also suffer with bad hayfever doesnt matter of course.

Ok so it's not his garden I suppose but I expected a little bit of help at least.

Amazing isn't it, how we just get on with it? My BF is a doctor, and he's exactly the same (albeit a little more self aware about his crapness). Whenever my ex has a the merest sniffle it's "a chest infection". Ha!