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I sent ex DP a video where DD 3 is playing in a t shirt and nothing else. He has reported me to a family friend who is a solicitor.

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fadetoblack · 29/08/2017 02:17

I left DP in January this year and moved five hours away. Since then I try and send photos and/ or videos daily for him to still feel a part of her life.

Today at bedtime DD began to play a game with her soft toys and was really engaged and chatty. I thought it was a sweet moment. I recorded about 45 seconds worth and sent it to him.

About four hours later he sent me a text telling me never to record her semi nude again and has reported me to a solicitor who has "documented" the incident.

I am not on any social media and the video was only and would only ever be sent to him. When I was recording I didn't really notice that she had no knickers on. I was paying attention to her game and never directly focused on her lower half. Having watched it back there are about 9 seconds where you can see her vagina or bottom when she lifts her arms and her t shirt is pulled up.

I feel that he has over reacted and surely a simple message from him along the lines of " this makes me feel uncomfortable, please don't do it again" would have been suffice. I feel really hurt that he felt that this was necessary. There is no SS involvement with our family and I am not sure how to handle this when I speak to him tomorrow.

What do you think?

OP posts:
MISSINDE · 29/08/2017 23:37

I would make that the last video / photo you ever send him , dangerous horrid man

fadetoblack · 30/08/2017 08:48

Love the "discussion" Lily
Made me laugh Smile

OP posts:
hmcAsWas · 30/08/2017 08:53

Don't send him any more videos or pictures for a while. That'll learn 'im

meyourelookingfor · 30/08/2017 09:03

This is ridiculous. Surely he would have reported it to social services not a solicitor and they would open an investigation.

A solicitor can't do that work.

You can document and "record" his unreasonable manipulative behaviour.

Keep contact to a minimum and don't send him anything else. What an idiot.

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