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DP a bit depressed

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2littlemoos · 28/08/2017 22:11

My DP never opens up.

Recently his sex drive has gone down and I've noticed it. He has also been moodier. After a while I kept asking why. He always said he didn't know. So I kept asking.

The other night he broke down. He actually cried (something I rarely see.) He said he doesn't feel himself. He said he doesn't feel he has as much testosterone (not sure if spelt right). That he has no reason to be unhappy but that sometimes he just feels depressed. He doesn't want to go to the doctors and I don't want to push this. Instead I'd like to help him.

This is very new to me and I don't quite know what to do. Does anyone have any experience?

It has already brought us closer together which is amazing but at the same time I feel helpless.

He has seemed fine since and I can relate to this as sometimes I feel depressed or moody but then once I've talked about it I feel fine and it's like I never felt that way to begin with.

Maybe talking to me has helped and that's what I have to keep doing.

I know there probably isn't much advice to give but it helps to voice it as I won't discuss this with anyone else. This is personal to him and a huge thing to admit.

Thanks for any advice you can offer.

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Mo0517 · 28/08/2017 22:32

It's brilliant that he was able to open up to you eventually and admit he wasn't feeling himself, which has helped for now. Probably though in the long term, going to see GP might be best, as often you are able to "quieten" these feelings for a while but will usually come back again.
If he is depressed, or feels a lack of testosterone etc perhaps you could go to doc with him for support if he does decide to make an appointment soon :)

2littlemoos · 28/08/2017 22:47

Thank you Smile

We've just talked more. He is going to make an appointment this week. We checked out low testosterone symptons and he ticks a few boxes so hopefully the dr can book him in for a blood test to see if that is the cause.

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Mo0517 · 28/08/2017 22:59

Aw that's great, hope everything works out well! Good luck!

TyneTeas · 28/08/2017 23:01

You might find this interesting, about how depression feels

2littlemoos · 29/08/2017 07:55

Thank you Mo0

Tyne that is an incredible video. Wow. Thank you for sharing.

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