It's such a relief when you realise that, 'it's not me its you!'

[Buthewasstillhungry]

For years now, I have been blaming myself for the way I feel after contact with a certain family member and especially how drained, stressed, tearful and awful I feel after spending any time in their company.
I have finally understood (after years of giving this rl my absolute all) that it's not me its her!!
I can now wish her well and step right right back, like completely back.
I really need to suss these things out sooner in future but better late than never.
She is a truly horrible person who I am delighted to not like one bit.
Ahh
Giving people the benefit of the doubt is not always a good thing.

Good for you hungry

Yup, sometimes takes as lot of touches of the fire to realise it burns ;) we get there in the end though

Good for you! It's a revelation isn't it?
Mind you, I've still to learn a bit of self preservation as I still challenge etc and post on here like now for comfort after exposure to the shit.

It's taken me lots of counselling to realise how destructive my relationship with my family member has been and my guilt over going NC. I finally realise how toxic the relationship and yes - it's not me, it's her.
Here's to healthier relationships going forward.

Horray!!!