How do I approach this?

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Since separating from my husband I have become a more active user of social media and this has unexpectedly led to me being asked out on a few dates - first one is in a few days time. I've posted a few 'selfies' so people obviously know what I look like. But I've had a few odd conversations recently with some of the guys that have asked me out. For example, one complimented my 'beautiful size 12 curves'. Another made rather negative comments about women who were bigger than a size 18 and how they should look after themselves more 'like you do'.

The thing is, I'm actually a size 20. I haven't altered my pictures in any way, I just snap from a good angle - doesn't everyone? But now I feel like I've somehow deceived people! Should I casually drop into conversation (somehow) that I'm a whole lot bigger than they think, or just go on the dates and hope my wonderful personality makes up for the lack of an amazing body.

Just to add, I have avoided photographs my whole adult life as I'm so self-conscious (always been overweight), so posting a 'selfie' was a frightening experience. I'm just so worried about potentially horrible comments from guys expecting me to be something else.

It's tough. I don't think you need to talk/tell them your size.
I also don't think you'll get horrible comments in your face. Most powerful are not that direct.
If you don't click - either on personality, or on physical attractiveness - you just won't hear back from them.

And that happens a lot with OLD, for people of all sizes.

So good luck! And good for you for having confidence to go for it!!!

Thank you Josuk, I appreciate your response. I will see how the first date goes and take it from there. I just hope he's polite enough not to mention my size 😖

Has anyone else ever been in a similar situation?

You'd have to be crazy to go on a date with someone who had already made nasty remarks about bigger women. Any woman of any size would do better avoiding men like that.