I think I know the answer but, here we go.
I friended a guy on facebook who was in a group I was a member of. I deliberately did so as I liked the look of him and he was single (sad perhaps). I've been separated for a few months and suppose I was looking for some attention. Although not looking for anything serious.
Anyway, he messaged me and we had a brief chat mainly about a mutual tv programme. I then messaged him a few days later and almost straight away he was a bit 'crude'. Not about me but just in general. He talked about being on Tinder and some of the rude messages he'd had etc.
I found it a bit odd he didn't ask me anything about myself, it was just general chat.
He messaged me again a few days later and it was clear he wanted a bit 'dirty' talk. I'm not a prude and have no issue with it but, again, no questions about me or anything. I didn't mind at the time and chatted back but was a little bit more reserved that him.
Now in hindsight, I'm thinking this is all very weird and should not respond again. In some ways I'm a little insulted that he thinks I'm just after a hook up because I friended him.
My friends think its just harmless fun and I'm so out of touch with all this having been with the same person for 15 years.