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Is this a 100% positive sign he has cheated

32 replies

BlueHeronMI · 28/08/2017 14:10

My fiancé and I have been together 5 years. We have had our ups and downs over those years losing a parent, being broke at times, and cycling thru some career choices. Right when things seem like they are going uphill again great job, saving money for a house, and both seem excited to have kids.... This happens. We decided to order pizza. We normally do it online but this time we wanted a taco pizza not sure if Pizza Hut had it at this location we called them to order delivery. My fiancé gave his information phone number and name. The worker said we have you down for days inn. He said I order all time and repeated our current address. The worker said what hotel number. So the whole conversation was messed up because she obviously had it wrong and asked about the days inn again. Ignored what he said. When he got off the phone I said maybe that was from your old partying days. Then he said no I've never been there. I was still in denial until it clicked that we got these new phone and new cell phone numbers 3+ years ago. He thought of it at the same time and mentioned that. I said this is awkward and he said what's awkward. He then laid the guilt trip on me and said you do not think I could do that. Then I changed the subject and said I'm more upset they don't have our taco pizza. I brushed it off because I never thought he would do that to me he's always been so kind and loving. He's the type guy that gets my coffee ready for me the night before. Then I went to bed and I found the weight of this situation coming back. It's the only thing I can think of. There's no absolute proof he did anything wrong and there never will be. Maybe it was all mishap from the worker. But the impulsive thoughts arnt going away. Am I crazy to think he could of cheated on me? Or was it just a confused worker? If I bring it up he will be pissed that I harbor the idea he could do that. What the hell do I do. Sorry for the cusing but I love him he's my world. I think I am his world. Now what?

OP posts:
WhamBarsArentAsFizzyAsTheyWere · 28/08/2017 14:13

If you got the numbers 3 years ago they may have been recycled?

Have you any other reason to suspect he has been cheating? Does he stay out at nights?

NothingGoldCanStay · 28/08/2017 14:20

i agree with it likely to be a number they have from a previous owner if you only changed your number 3 years ago.
I got my new number 4 months ago and I'm still getting calls and texts for 'Mike'. People don't always update their details.

KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 28/08/2017 14:26

I'd say it sounds pretty far fetched to say he's cheated off that scenario.

Sounds like the person who had that number before your partner, loved his pizza hut and they still have that number on the system for him.

PaganGoddessBrigid · 28/08/2017 14:29

I do not think that is proof of much.

Unless he is regularly away over night. What's a Days Inn Confused Is that a type of Pizza?

Actually you reminded me, I once ordered a pizza and they said 'vegan household right'. Nope.

DeadButDelicious · 28/08/2017 14:36

I'd say that's a pretty big leap. Unless there are other signs, then I would assume computer error and think no more of it.

Ttbb · 28/08/2017 15:26

I don't know. If I were having an affair I probably wouldn't order pizza half way through...

OnionKnight · 28/08/2017 15:31

This is far from a 100% sign that he's having an affair, more like 0%.

Beentherelefthimgotthetshirt · 28/08/2017 15:47

I honestly feel you are overthinking this and if that's the only 'clue' then you're reading too much mumsnet! Probably a database issue at the pizza place.

ImperialBlether · 28/08/2017 15:51

Do you have a shared bank account and online banking? It would show up there.

newdaylight · 28/08/2017 15:52

No

No it's not at all

ImperialBlether · 28/08/2017 15:52

One thing you could do is order another pizza using his phone, when he's not around and ask them about the Days Inn thing - say that might be for my brother, what name was used?

SandyY2K · 28/08/2017 15:52

Not proof at all.

Oly5 · 28/08/2017 15:53

Of course he's not cheating based on that!

Gorgosparta · 28/08/2017 16:01

Fucking hell.

Yeah start snooping on your partner.

Thats always the sensible way to act in a grown up relationship, when this is the only thing thats happened.

Janus · 28/08/2017 16:13

My dd gets phone calls and texts all from some sort of finance company about all her outstanding bills, since she was 12!! Numbers definitely get passed on, I'd have thought this is what happened.

tethersend · 28/08/2017 16:14

Two things stand out for me:

  1. What's a taco pizza?
  1. Isn't your coffee cold in the morning if he gets it ready the night before?

But no, no signs of cheating.

thestamp · 28/08/2017 16:16

If this is all you're going off of, then I'm pleased to tell you you are being completely unreasonable, to the point of paranoia!

ConcreteUnderpants · 28/08/2017 16:54

I quite like the sound of a taco pizza.

No cheating vibes from me either.

mum11970 · 28/08/2017 17:13

No, not proof. I would assume numbers are recycled just the same as they do with landline numbers. If Pizza Hut have a central database that stores all phone numbers given when ordering they could quite easily have the number saved from years ago from anywhere in the uk.

Justdontknow4321 · 28/08/2017 17:36

Not proof at all ... if he was shagging someone at the days inn I highly doubt he would be ordering pizza half way through ... pizza would be the last thing on my mind if I was in that hotel room.

zeeboo · 28/08/2017 17:38

You think he's having sex with someone and then ordering them a pizza??? Really????

AttilaTheMeerkat · 28/08/2017 17:43

Days Inn is a US based hotel chain PaganGoddess.

Are you in the US BlueHeron; I ask because of some of the references and spelling you have used.

There is no proof here at all of cheating.

Bluntness100 · 28/08/2017 17:44

You think he's having sex with someone and then ordering them a pizza?

No she thinks he books a local hotel called the day's inn. Shags someone, then orders pizza. To be delivered to the hotel. Repeatedly. From the same pizza place.

Op. Either a screw up in the system, or it was the previous owner of the phone number.

dragonsandfairies · 28/08/2017 18:11

There are also days inn in the uk

No i dont think hes cheated

CardsforKittens · 28/08/2017 18:29

I had a missed call from an unknown number so I googled it and it was the number of a private investigator - scared me shitless. I worried for a while and then they called back and left a message - it was a colleague with a new phone and a recycled number.

If this is your only 'evidence' of cheating you shouldn't worry.