Text or not?

[loveyoutothemoon]

Met someone recently and we hit it off straight away, the chemistry was amazing, and really liked each other. We've met 3 times and the 4th was a possibility this weekend. He was going to let me know on Saturday if he was free to meet in the evening. It got to late afternoon and no text, so I asked and he said he'd let me know. An hour an a half later and he still doesn't know, half 8 says his sister is upset and wants him to go out but he was adament it wasn't an excuse.

I've not replied. Do you think I'm being messed about?

I think it depends why his sister was feeling low. Is she ill? Recently separated? Suffers from depression? Did he call her just before he was to due to meet you?

It no to the above then I think it looks like something/someone better came along or he just didn't feel like going out at all himself and made up an excuse.

I think that if he really liked you and was genuine, then he wouldn't have left you hanging like he did.

He'd have texted you early on to say, "I'm really sorry, but my sister's not been well recently and she's feeling pretty low today. I'm probably going to be spending the evening with her. I wanted to let you know sooner rather than later so that you didn't have a wasted evening. What are you doing on X?"

That would suggest that he cared and had considered your feelings in it all.

Don't send that message. It gives him too much and it smacks of desperation.

He hasn't considered you, he hasn't treated you like a priority.

When I was dating before, I used to be a bit perplexed by some of the hard nosed advice I read on here. But it's absolutely spot on.

Someone who is genuinely really interested in you will behave like they are really interested in you and not like they could take you or leave you. People who want a relationship with someone don't play games. They just don't.

He could just as easily have simply not be arsed to go out (with anyone) on Saturday so made up an excuse. We've surely all been there. Dating when you're just getting to know someone is effort even if its brilliant and maybe he just couldnt be bothered Saturday for whatever reason and no reflection on you. Real life isnt a film where he needs to act like an besotted Prince from minute one. Things grow and become more important. Give him one more chance.

Completely agree with jetboy.