STBXH is in relationship & trying to sext me

[sunshiney78]

I asked STBXH to leave on 15 July after my friend saw him on Tinder. I was getting something on iPad for DD today & noticed that he left his Google Photos app on there.
I looked through the photos and saw pics of the OW/new GF from 6 days after I asked him to leave and subsequent photos obviously show that they're in a relationship (punch in gut, was shaking for an hour).
However, as recently as 2 days ago, STBXH has been trying to sext me (I've been ignoring), have screenshots saying how he will never stop fancying me, & would give his right arm to have me naked next to him right now etc etc.

1. Should I tell new GF/OW? (I know her name)
2. Do you think the relationship started after I asked him to leave? Can't believe he moved on SO quickly 😥

1. No. What is the point? Count your blessings he's no longer your problem
2. No.

I wouldn't bother telling her, as it's a new thing, but I'd remind why he was kicked out and how you clearly weren't enough for him, so he needs to leave you alone.

I was going to post something about what he could do with his right arm and the photos of his ex, but had better not.

Ignore him. Block him.

hell no... he's someone else's problem now...

he will SEXT whomever replies lovely... don't let that person be you x

I think I'd say, "One more text like this and it goes straight to GF." I don't think you'd hear from him again.

I don't know what is in his mind. There's no point in even trying to understand these types. Except to realise they're a complete waste of space. Just forget about him and find somebody decent.

Eugh. I would hate that, if it was me I'd text back letting him know I'm not interested and to stop. My exh once showed up at my door needing to talk. He was about to ask someone to marry him but wanted first to make sure we were definitely over. The relationship had ended a couple of years before this but as we'd been together since time began we stayed friends and met up perhaps 3 times a year, as friends, out over a meal, nothing ever passed between us. I was in a new relationship as well and I'd introduced new guy to old guy. I felt sorry for his new wife that on the day he planned to ask her to marry him he checked in with me first. I'd been her for so many years.

Do nothing apart from block and thank your lucky stars that you are rid of this clown.

All best

I can't block because we have a DD, and don't care about the sexting attempts, just makes me roll my eyes.
Just wondering (I know I shouldn't care), whether they started seeing each other before we ended & even if not, how he moved on in 6 days after 8 years together.
Also imagined if I a new GF, I'd want to know if my BF was trying it on with his Ex wife.

1. No
2. no

Don't worry about wondering when they got together. You know he was looking for something extra being on tinder.

The new GF can ask him why he's about to get divorced and it's down to him to be honest with her.

I know I'd certainly ask a new guy why he was getting divorced.

Might be an interesting question to him. "Does you GF know why we're getting divorced?"

That will probably put an end to it. Did he tell you why he was on tinder, when he now wants you naked next to him?

Print off all messages for when you see her. .

I probably would be highly tempted to screenshot and send to her, to be honest, if I were you. I hate to think of another woman being taken advantage of.
But in the end, you have to co-parent with him, and telling the GF will only make things harder in that regard (and thus potentially impact you and your child negatively.)
I'd just tell him "Stop sending me sexual messages, it's totally inappropriate." And if (and only if,) you think it would have the effect of shutting him up, perhaps do what ImperialBlether suggested, and tell him you'll send any dirty messages on to his new GF.
What a pathetic wanker he is I'm so sorry OP, and awed at your self-respect and dignity.

1. No. Telling her will make coparenting more of a nightmare than it already has to be. He'll blame you for the consequences of his actions if she dumps him and if she doesn't you'll be the jealous shrew that tried to break them up.

2. Definitely not. Why else was he on Tinder?