On beautiful day like today

[Juststopit]

My husband of 20 years today admitted to an emotional
affair. Things has been bad between us for a while and I suspected there was someone else for a while. He denies its more than texts and calls but doesn't seem to realise that this is more hurtful. He blames me, says he hasn't loved me for a long while and that I m a bully etc. W ve told the kids and I feel strangely calm and strong. Any advice on how to stay strong and how to support my teenagers through the upcoming house move and upheaval would be greatly appreciated

It's a body blow when something like that is discovered, isn't it? I hope you're okay.

I'm concerned that he said you were a bully? Why did he say that?

I think he was just throwing any old shit at me and that's all he could think of to be honest. I've always worked hard and done the majority of childcare housework and worked full time. I have loads of friends and family to support me just need to stay civil and get the practicalities sorted out. My mum and dad are coming up tomorrow. He's been so distant and unloving for so long I almost feel relieved. Is this normal ?

Yes, a number of friends said they tensed up, waiting for the shock to hit them and realised it wasn't going to - they knew it was for the best. Glad you've got RL support - it really does help.

I'm very sorry OP, it really hurts.
Relief is normal because you realise you weren't imagining sensing something was wrong. And being back in sole charge of the direction of your life can be incredibly freeing.
I imagine your teenagers are already preoccupied with their own lives. I suggest they need an honesty, then as little comment about their DF as possible. But I would correct any false information he gives them about you. Give them information on a need-to-know basis and make it clear you are available to listen and answer their questions. I understand it's badmouthing of the other parent that does the most damage.
Remember to look after yourself - give yourself treats - and let family and friends support you

Thank you both , I intend to celebrate tomorrow I really feel that it will be the start of my new life. I've never felt so free and hope this lasts.