What would you do/say..

[Notaneasyone4me]

If your partner, who you loved, told you that they loved you but didn't find you attractive anymore because of the weight you'd put on. (Was already three stone over weight and added on another two) they also said they needed you to lose weight as they didn't want the spark to go out. Also insinuated they might leave in a few years if you carried on getting bigger

I'd just be careful with this one as if he's depressed about it himself it may push him further.
My mum is forever saying this sort of thing to my dad. Has been for years. She's right he has put weight on but it gets hard to see her constantly chipping away at his confidence.
Would you actually leave if he didn't lose it? If the answer is yes then follow through and do. If the answer is no then there's not much point bringing it up again.

People have to do that sort of thing for themselves, you've given him the nudge now it's down to his own choice.

You did the right thing OP

Perhaps you should use a bit of reverse psychology, although I'm not sure that's the proper label for it, lol. Anyway, focus on your fitness. In a big way. Exercise, only buy healthy food for the house. Only cook healthy meals. Don't say anything to your husband about your efforts, but don't hide them. Let him see what you're doing. If he asks, tell him you care what you look like and how you feel. Nagging him clearly won't work. Perhaps him watching you get into great shape will motivate him.

Aqua that's my plan!

I've told him the running machine is getting dragged out tomorow for me and put in the living room. I've also said 'fuck it let's start slimming world tomoz' which I will actually follow and he's agreed. I know he will a least do a fast walk in the evening watching tv.

Nagging doesn't work as he very much has a I'll say what you like to SYTFU . So I'm going to use this as a time to get fit myself, if he doesn't get on board he can get of the fecking bus!

I think it is curtains for your relationship tbh
If you really loved him then it wouldn't matter how fat he was
true love sees beyond all physical imperfections

true love sees beyond all physical imperfections

Morbid obesity is not simply an "imperfection." The root causes of morbid obesity can be laziness, indifference, or emotional illness the person has not, or refuses, to get help for. Any of those factors can have a severe impact on a relationship, and when the obese person completely rejects help from their concerned partner, it quite often destroys the marriage.