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I don't fancy him at all...what do I do?

16 replies

Nat123xxx · 26/08/2017 18:22

Just got back from second date and we've been kissing etc but I'm not feeling it.
Do you think it might take longer?
With my ex after the first date I felt happy and excited but I don't. I don't know if it's because im not over my ex or just I'm not into him.
Would you have another date?

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Ditsy1980 · 26/08/2017 18:30

Nope.
why waste your time? Life's too short for dragging it out in the hope a spark comes along.
Better luck next time!

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 26/08/2017 18:31

Nope, don't waste his or your time.

jeaux90 · 26/08/2017 18:37

Personally I believe in the 3 date rule.

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Nat123xxx · 26/08/2017 18:40

He just seems very flat..
There's no spark for me ...I normally feel something by now.

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Widdsters · 26/08/2017 18:40

Nah

Lovemusic33 · 26/08/2017 18:41

I have just text someone who I went on a date with yesterday to tell him there was no spark. It wasn't worth leading him on in hope I would eventually feel something. Move on to the next one and don't waste your time if it's not right.

oldlaundbooth · 26/08/2017 18:42

Nah, move on.

TwitterQueen1 · 26/08/2017 18:42

No. Give it up. I listened to people who told me that attraction would grow, give it time etc etc. But it doesn't work. There is either a spark or there isn't, and if there isn't, it will never come.

TrinityRhino · 26/08/2017 18:42

I wouldnt continue it.
Like you say, normally you would feel something.
It's ok to not feel anything and just move on.

PaganGoddessBrigid · 26/08/2017 18:43

NO!

Just say ''no chemistry''

PaganGoddessBrigid · 26/08/2017 18:45

Yeh, that ''it'll grow'' advice,. i think if you work with somebody and don't notice them to begin but then an attraction grows when you get to know them but that is different .

expatinscotland · 26/08/2017 18:59

I'd nope outta there. Don't waste your time, his or yours.

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Nat123xxx · 26/08/2017 19:02

With my ex when he turned up for the date,I looked at him and got that feeling.
Got excited for dates,texts etc but with him nothing.
This is going to sound awful but I don't get out much so I've been enjoying doing things and I know that's not fair on him.
I pay 50/50 but to have someone to go out with is nice.
Hope I don't sound nasty because I'm not.

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Aquamarine1029 · 27/08/2017 07:17

There is nothing nasty about not having feelings for someone. You don't have to justify how you feel - if the spark isn't there, it's not there. Don't go out with him again and don't feel poorly about it. Move on.

Auldspinster · 27/08/2017 09:23

Cut both your losses and move on. Chemistry is either there or it isn't.

JK1773 · 27/08/2017 09:30

Nah, let it go. The chemistry is the best bit. If it's not there you're just friends

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