Woman's Hour on Estrangement from mothers

[crazyhorses3]

I have just been listening to weekend Woman's Hour and one of the topics was women who are estranged from their mother. I wonder who may be estranged from their mother and why? I have not spoken to mine for about six weeks after she put the phone down on me. She did this before and we didn't speak for months. She never apologises, and this time i am not going to get in touch until she does.

Mine moved home - 5 hours away - without telling me a thing about where she was going.

I knew she was moving, but was the only one she didn't tell anything about the house she was buying.

However I put it, she refused to see why I'd be hurt. Apparently her reason was that "we were never that close"

Then she and her h turned up at my house and got shirty with me because I wouldn't pretend everything was ok, and wouldn't hug her

I had to call the police to get her to leave my home.

I did giver her another chance to make it right, she blew that as well.

Apparently she's devastated not to have me/dc in her life.

Not devastated enough to actually say the word sorry tho...

My life is better without her in it. Hands down. Way better.

Mine left me at 18 months old, her mother was horrendous, found her when I was 31, but she hurt me again so that's it. Quite fancy listening to it thanks

DH found it hard but reassuring to listen to as he is semi estranged from MIL. She is a complete narcissist and must always be seen to be in charge - DH has called her out on her unreasonable behaviour and she didn't like it.

I remember one of the women interviewed saying that she realised that as long as she was still in contact her mother would be trying to control her. Got it in one.