How do you get over the pain?

[INFP]

16 years of off again on again. Finally found the strength to leave.

I love him with all my heart but we are not compatible.

But it hurts so much and I miss him so badly.

Please tell me how to move on from the pain.

Time - lots and lots of time.
Be kind to yourself.
Keep busy.
Get your social back on track.
Get family and friends around you for support.
It's tough - no denying.
16 years is a long time.
It took me a good 1 year before I felt like me again after I split with my ExH (together 15 years)
But you will get there.
Ensure you are fully no contact if you don't have kids together.
Block him on everything so you can't 'stalk' him on social media.

Thank you melons. I'm just so scared right now that I'll never find love again. Because despite the problems, we did love each other very much.

He wants to stay in contact. But I have said no to that.

It's so hard. He is my best friend and lover. But it wasn't enough.