3 hours on the phone with DM complaining about dad's behaviour and denying what she said the day before we left after a week at theirs'. She went through a long list of negative behaviour that my DC did., told me I was not a good mum. Dm told DD she can not come back. DS said he does not want to talk to them anymore.
DM tells me she does not remember exactly what she said. That's a classic, and I expected that is what she would say. She said she was far too tired because she had several lots of grandchildren one lot after the others. She was indeed tired. She was also stressed out because the children slammed doors a shouted and this would cause my dad to shout instantly at the top of his voice. I felt dragged back into the old childhood dynamics: we were all walking on eggshells all the time.
My children are not used to it and 'trigger' him all the time. I tend to nag them more and in return they become even more boisterous.
I am tired of mum's nastiness, which always comes when I least expect it. I said t DM that her behaviour and dad's might drive me away. She cried and said she knew she would end up alone. so much drama.