Telling me to go to bed?!?!?!

[PlsTryAnother]

So we're seperated but living together. Tonight he went on a date. It hurts. Where do I go? What do I do????? It really fucking hurts.

Why are you still living together? That sounds hell. One of you needs to move out pronto.

I think it's completely unreasonable to be dating while still living together and am surprised any couple forced to cohabit wouldn't have an agreement not to

We have a SN child together and a lot of debt. I dont know what to do. Its unworkable

Yeah you need to look at options for moving out as soon as you can

I know it's unpleasant, but once you agreed to separate, both of you are free to date.

Well if he did tell you to go to bed then the obvious answer to that is 'no, I'm planning on a late night film watching I'm afraid, looks like you'd better go elsewhere if you're planning on having company'.

He told you to go to bed? Is he planning on bringing this date home?!

Or do you mean you are hurt at how quickly he has got back out there?

Who made the decision to separate? Maybe he is an immature knob who is doing it to hurt you if it was your idea?

Either way, this sounds like a dreadful situation OP and I hope you sort something out asap

Who told you to go to bed and why?
If it was because he was bringing a date back then - no no no and no.
There have to be boundaries if you are living together.
The main one being, not bringing other people back to the house.

Dont go to bed! He has a nerve if he thinks he can treat your home as a shagpad

No way Pls!!

Ok he can go on a date. Let him off.... And when you're ready to, so can you
but no way can expect to bring a woman back to your home
ABSOLUTELY NO way. Stand firm. I'd make a show of him if he turned up with a woman.

Tricky one. Have you checked what support is a available to you to move out.

He obviously lacks class telling you to go to bed.

Oh sorry misleading title. Was a bit drunk. No he didnt expect to bring a woman back here. He told me to go to bed due to me being emotional and hurt. He didnt want to talk, and I did. It hurts more than I expected. We thought we could stay living together but maybe we can't. Life just really hurts atm.

OP that must be awful. Do look into whether or not there is any support available for you to move on.

He told you to go to bed because you were drunk and emotional and wanted to talk about him going on a date or the relationship.

To be fair, it was a probably a sensible suggestion.

I dont mean this to sound awful. But i would not have wanted talk under those circumstances.

It was always going to hurt when he started dating. Worse because he is still living there. I am sorry you are in pain.

But he isnt going to stay single together and you really need to sort stuff out. It sounds like you need to find away to live seperate.

How long have to been separated? Did you hope you would get back together?

Hi OP. How are you feeling?

I was wondering if you're married to him. Do you have a mortgage together or is your place rented?

Yes.....married.....mortgage....debts.......a child......hey ho

No btw, it was my decision to end it. I dont love him anymore. I didn't hope anything. I wasn't expecting this pain.