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Confused wife

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Cinco08 · 23/08/2017 23:03

Hello I'm having a really tough time and wanted some advice my husband whom I have been with for 9years has been so moody and snappy lately we have two children together and he was great with my first but lately he doesn't bother with any of us unless his in the mood. He comes home from work sits on the sofa and watches YouTube with his headphones on, if I ask him a question he sighs loudly and pulls his headphones off his ears and stares at me as if to say this better be important! I don't know what's happend to him he never asks me how my day was I have to just talk about my day and can tell his not interested. He has no sense of humour anymore and think he just finds me irritating I try so hard to make him happy I listen to him talk about his work etc which is extremely boring but I sit and listen and make out I'm really interested and then sometimes when I talk he shuts me off and says "I'm not interested to be honest it's boring" he snaps at me over silly things which I know he wouldn't of done years ago! He always moans that he gets woken up at the weekends even though he falls asleep on the sofa because DS still wakes in the night! So I have to bring the children downstairs when they wake we don't have a big house so noise is heard everywhere. He never apologises in an argument his always right when he is so clearly in the wrong! I don't know what to do I've cried every night for the past few weeks I feel there is no relationship but I'm too scared to admit it please someone say it will get better??

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thisfamily · 23/08/2017 23:22

Gosh, you are trying hard to accommodate him. And he seems to take you for granted.
You need to let him know how he makes you feel and that you are at breaking point. If he does not want to know it shows that he has no regards for you.

Cinco08 · 23/08/2017 23:36

As soon as I wrote this post I reached breaking point and walked downstairs and told him exactly how I feel and the way he has been behaving is so wrong. He didn't answer and I ranted for about 5mins and after I finished he looked ashamed and said "I know your right I'm an arse" and he asked if we could leave it tonight as he wanted to go to sleep (I think it's really upset him to hear how his been behaving). Thanks for the Advice i feel such relief after just letting it out. X

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thisfamily · 23/08/2017 23:42

"I know your right I'm an arse" is an easy get out of jail card and does not commit to anything. Tell him what you would like to happen and get some commitments from him on how he is going to help and change.

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