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move on or?

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buddhasbelly · 23/08/2017 02:28

DP and I split up last year. His choice but ultimately for the best at the time. I had mental health/poor coping skills that I needed to be by myself to address. I have a dd (3) from a previous relationship. She doesn't see her dad as he is very abusive.

Fast forward to a few months ago and DP and I were communicating again to the point where we both said we wanted to make a go of things but are living in different parts of the country. I have done 6 months of CBT to help me learn new coping mechanisms when stressed.

At first DP was phoning quite a bit etc but he is now currently and for the next couple of weeks v busy with work. However, it's now the case where he'll read a msg and just not reply. I now feel like i'm in a situation where a) at first he thought he wanted this but now that he has it, he doesn't want it anymore or b) he does want this but the fact that i'm questioning it tells me that this wont work.

I trust him but do wonder if he's changed his mind. Am I being paranoid or should I maybe move on?

OP posts:
SweetLuck · 23/08/2017 02:29

Have you asked him?

buddhasbelly · 23/08/2017 02:41

thanks for the reply - yes, was direct and asked him last week and he says it's just work. But then has gone quieter than before.

I am wondering if my anxiety is still not under managed enough to be in a relationship.

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 23/08/2017 03:08

That sounds a bit off...It wasn't your normal pattern of communication, so I don't think that this is your problem. Sounds like maybe he has checked out of the relationship, and this will just mess with your head if you carry on maybe?

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