Shouting, swearing, at husband - damaging children?

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I know I shouldn't do it. I try so hard not to do it. But he drives me mad. Our relationship is rubbish but he won't divorce. Am so down and fed up. I love my children, hate my husband. Am so worried that the children's view of relationships is going to be warped whatever I do.

Well, it's not great to do that but I think everyone loses it with their DH/DP from time to time. Mine is being utterly vile at the moment plus the in laws are here for three days so we're having a lovely time all together.

He won't divorce? You can divorce him, surely? Not sure he has a choice if you don't want to be in the relationship anymore.

He many not want a divorce, but you don't have to live with him. Bad relationship affect children and does not teach them about what you said good "view of relationships"

Can you get him to move out? Or can you move elsewhere.

sorry but working with kids, yes having to hear parents shouting at each other and fighting is very scarcy for children and does effect them.
I would divorce him, no one should have to stay in bad relationship, and if he cares about kids, he will do it.
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if the relationship has broken down you can divorce...

has it? have you tried repairing your relationship?

being in a relationship where you hate each other will affect your children ..you can try and soldier on and compensate but they will learn to bottle things up to protect you for example

Your children's view of relationships wont be warped whatever you do - they may come to see how HEALTHY it is to take control of our own lives and to learn to make hard choices that are in our best interests. Including divorce. That seems to be good modelling for them, rather than staying, being unhapping and controlled by another human being.

Do whats best for YOU and your children will benefit from your choices.