Does your OH make you feel...

[MessyBun247]

...likeable?

Just that really.

I feel like an unlikeable person a lot of the time when Im with my partner. I dont feel like this when Im with family/friends/acquaintances/work colleagues. I think Im a nice person, fairly quiet, easy going, funny, interesting, thoughtful. But with him I just feel like an annoyance.

What does he do to make you feel like an annoyance?

To answer your OP though, mine makes me feel beautiful, funny and interesting. He does this through the way he treats me and looks at me. He also tells me these things. I am very secure in feeling that he genuinely likes me. I'm sorry your OH isn't making you feel like this.

My EX husband made me feel like that...
My partner makes me feel alive, beautiful, amazing.

Ditch. And live...

yes, he does

have just been spending time with someone else who is very up and down- part of the time I'm wonderful, part of the time I'm really not, and it's made me appreciate the steadiness of dh's affection and my confidence in his feelings

I'm sure Other Person loves me all the time, but the good thing about dh is that I hardly ever have to worry about whether he likes me, because I know he does.

My DH makes me feel sexy and beautiful. Yeah I get that I sometimes bore him, but sometimes he bores me too, that's just normal!

It's not you...it's him, I'd say. I feel a lot like this too. Buy or rent a loudhailer and carry out all conversations with him on this, it may work. Sending you a big hug xoxox

My dp looks at me with my wrinkles and flabby bits and sometimes know-it-all-ness, and loves me.

My ex partner often made me feel pretty pointless and unimportant. My now husband makes me feel like the most beautiful, interesting, funny, sexy woman who ever did live. Not all the time, as my insecurities dictate that I feel like a stressed, shouting lump a lot of the time, but my husband makes me feel like a goddess.

Sorry you feel this way OP, it's not nice. If being with other people makes you feel better about yourself, that tells you a lot about your future with your DP. It's not that easy I know, but maybe it's time to spend less time with him and more with those who build you up, not knock you down...?

My ex partner didn't make
Me feel like a nice person. He didn't make me feel like a bad person really and it's not as if I have ever suffered from low self esteem. He just didn't ever comment on anything nice about me, wasn't that type of person.
Eventually I started to feel unloved and fell out of love with him.
I'm now with someone who is the exact opposite. He makes me feel beautiful and young and not just a mum. I wasn't what you call unhappy before , but wasn't happy either.. I am now. In hindsight I should have given him the opportunity to put it right , but I didn't want to change him and force him to act a way that wasn't really him.

He doesnt have much interest in anything I say. Im not a very chatty person, Im quite quiet. But when I do talk I get interrupted a lot of the time so he can say his piece.

He says Im always in a bad mood. Which just isnt true. Hes not good at helping around the house or with or toddler, he sits back and does nothing even when knows Im struggling. And inevitably I snap sometimes that he should be helping me, which is when he says Im always in a bad mood.

He has said I have no sense of humour. But I love to laugh and make others laugh. I have quite a dry sense of humour rather than slapstick. But apparently thats not good enough.

If I think back over the past 5 years I cant think of any compliments about my personality. Not once. Just about my boobs or figure. But nothing about me as a person. Why is he even with me?

Honestly now my energy levels are so low around him. He drags me down I suppose. When I spend time with others I feel energized and positive and uplifted. With him theres just nothing. Just a feeling that Im not a very nice person. But I know I am. How do I even make things better?

Its good to hear others experiences.

Its just confirming what I already thought though. Your partner should make you feel loveable and you should enjoy spending time together

Wow Im really good at picking men who hate me!

Messybun... These men hate THEMSELVES and take it out on you, because blaming you for their faults is an easy way out for them.

Fertilitykate your situation made me smile. That must be lovely

My ex made me feel quite boring and unattractive. Mainly because I think he was quite uninteresting. He never paid me a compliment, he had no conversation. He didn't even tell me that I looked nice on our wedding day. It's almost as if he thought if he paid me too many compliments I'd get ahead of myself.

Well, I did anyway.

My boyfriend seems to think I'm hilarious, compliments me a lot and we spend hours talking.