I posted about this before, basically ex in laws wanted to come down and see DD2 but wanted me to book their accommodation, get dp to take a day off work to collect them from the airport and then do the same when they went back and would need to be ferried about everywhere.
In the end they just didn't come. Relief all round for me.
A few weeks ago I started getting the calls again saying they wanted to come down. I told them the dates we were going on holiday. I got a call three days before we were going away to say they were coming down the following weds. I told them we wouldn't be here. Got 'FFS!' in response. I suggested they travel down the following Sunday (although we wouldn't be about as DD was on an event all day) but would be free Monday/Tuesday. They had decided to drive down and go and see friends on the way home.
Then I get a call mid holiday saying they had booked flights for the Sunday and could I pick them up from the airport. I said no, I was out with DD at an event all day and dp would also be there as he was working at it. They also wanted me to book them somewhere to stay. I said no again, I was on holiday, I was not going to be forking out for their accommodation either.
They turned up on Sunday and asked to have DD yesterday. DD is 11 and has autism. Her dad (their son) is an abusive arse who has not only got several convictions for DV (against me) but convictions for assaulting others and making threatening phone calls (to me). I have had to take out a non mol in the past which named both my DDs as he was being verbally abusive to them and telling DD2 that I was a fat lazy cow, that she wasn't allowed in mine or DP's car in case I crashed, that she wasn't allowed to go abroad with me, that he was going to kill me and dp. He neglected them on contact visits and would lie in bed all day sleeping after smoking weed. I stopped contact and got the non mol.
He also told CMS that DD2 was not his and demanded a DNA test. Although he is now paying and never bothered with the DNA test it was just another way of trying to get at me. He is basically a manipulative arsehole who spends any time he has ever had with DD2 questioning her about her home life with me and dp.
So ex IL's took her out yesterday and she came home and said that she spoke to her dad on the phone. He was questioning her about home, school and other stuff (which she wouldn't talk about), she was very evasive and quite gobby to me (which is not like her at all).
I was absolutely fuming and sent IL's a text saying that again they have broken my trust, that it's me that has to pick up the pieces when his words and actions impact on DD2, that he has no rights (he has no PR) and that it was my decision to make about whether DD2 speaks to him or not. I wouldn't stop the call happening but would rather it was done here at home, with him on speaker so I could monitor his behaviour.
Ex FIL was quite off with me and said it wasn't his fault and that he had just 'happened to phone'. I have no doubt this is bullshit and I am glad they are fucking off home tomorrow. DD2 has gone out with them again today but I've told ex IL's no more calls and that DD2 should not be asked to lie to me or hide things from me.
I wish they would all just fuck off and leave us alone.