Hi. I would be grateful for some perspective on my mother's behaviour. Context - I have 2 children (3 & 6), am an only child so these are her only grandchildren and my father died two years ago, fairly suddenly but after several years living with cancer. My mum is very negative about her situation. I live 2 hours drive away and she constantly refers to how far it is. My in-laws are only 8 miles from us. This was not a plan, rather when we moved back north it us where my partner found a full time job. My mum visits fortnightly for 2-3 nights for childcare alternated with my MIL. I spent all Easter hols with her, children had a week with her in summer and planned my summer hol so I could return via hers for daughter's birthday together. It is never enough. She is jealous of any time in-laws spend with my children and when they look after them says "I would like to have done that." She visited 3 times in one week for my son's birthday and when I gently declined a visit the following week told me she did not feel welcome in my house. She refers to being on her own all the time. I have suggested GP and for a few weeks she tried antidepressants but prefers to 'soldier on' in her words. She is not warm to my partner, often criticising them to me and quizzes me about them (how often do they speak to their parents on phone etc). I have tried talking to my mum but find it impossible to get her to see my side. I am currently trying to stay calm and a bit more detached but feel on edge and very guilty. I also feel bad for my partner. Any advice?