He wants to move back in.......

[wishitwasnotso]

He wants to move back in after a 3 months out of our family home, instigated by me due to my inability to come to terms with his affair. Its over. He'll never do it again. He professes love me and is waiting for me to recover. I am recovering. I feel stronger and less sad and angry now. time heals and its been over 6 months now...our child would also obviously be happier and less confused with daddy home.
Its a struggle to manage mortgage and rent......I don't seem quite pissed off enough anymore to say no. But.....

Really sorry to hear you've been through this. It's up to you op. He may well have realised the error of his ways and be genuinely sorry.

If it was me I couldn't trust him again. Having worn this t-shirt before I am glad to be out of it.

Out of interest how do you know he's changed and won't do it again?

Has he been for couselling to help him with his problems e.g. Massive sense of entitelment, lying, cheating stealing family money

Since he lied and deceived you for 3 months before, how do you know he's telling the truth now ?

Nope, no way , no.

Tell him to Fuck Off!!

Its fuck off from me too op.

Why is your child confused?
People split up all the time and it's not hard to explain.

You really want him back because you'd have more money?

He had an affair so he has no right to move back in with you.

You should start distancing yourself from him and getting used to having space between you which will give you clarity. I guarantee you will feel better and stronger after two weeks xx

Your child would be less confused with another change? Eh? That's you projecting not reality. Don't lie to yourself about 'for the sake of the children'.

You want more money, OK, that's your choice. Obviously he will do it again. If you are cool with that go ahead and bring him back for the cash.

Are you planning to build up a war chest of cash for the next time? How will you explain it to the children next time? Will they be even more confused? Or do you plan to accept all the future affairs now he knows it isn't actually a red line for you?

What led him to have an affair to begin with?

Why wouldn't he do it again?
You seem to want him back because you're defeated.

Once a cheater, always a cheater. I've never once met an exception in all my life - and now that he's done it before, it will be even easier next time. Do you want to go through that again?