My dad invited me to stay with him for a month while I am between accommodations, in reality I live between his place and my boyfriend's flat 15 mins away. My dad lives in a 2 bed flat and uses the second bedroom as a 'study' with lots of bookshelves and a desk. He said I could stay there. The first week was fine, but now I'm starting to go nuts.
My dad is a neat freak and I am not really messy but I am no Monica Gellar. IE. if I leave an empty glass that I was drinking water from in the living room for a few hours he complains about it several times. He complains that my belongings are all over the place in his study but I have tried to make the best use of the space when there is little to no storage for me. He complained my perfume could 'fall' onto the floor and wreck it, yet his bathroom cabinet is chock full of aftershaves and deodrants that he has hoarded and never uses.
I don't really get alone time. If we have dinner together & I try to read in the living room, he constantly talks and I can't concentrate. Tonight I left the living room at 9.30 to have a bit of time by myself before sleeping. He walked into my temporary room at 10.30 and said 'I have to do X, Y and Z in here', pottering around and using his computer, talking away etc. When I asked for him to do this tomorrow (when I am out and have plans) he said 'I told you I'd be using this room, it's still my study.'
He does not cook so I'm doing all of that as a thank you for letting me stay. But there is NO compromise from him as far as I can stay. I feel hyper-alert all the time. On the other hand, we had a really nice day together on Sunday because I enjoy spending time with him generally.
My boyfriend says I can stay with him as often as I like until I move into my new place but I don't want to hurt my dad by leaving after his invitation. Thoughts?