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Is he too young for me?!

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Costaricachica · 21/08/2017 22:26

NCd else might be outing:
I left my estranged husband at the beginning of this year after discovering a variety of his dirty secrets....cheating/prostitutes / drug taking.

Fast forward 6 months and I'm away with family and my children and I've met someone who I've really clicked with and who seems to find me attravtive too. The thing is he's 25 and I'm early 30s...is he too young?!?!

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Fairylea · 21/08/2017 23:09

That's nothing. Honestly, just go for it.

I am nearly 8 years older than dh. When we met he was 22 and at uni and living on his mums sofa Shock - I was a divorced mum of one.

Nearly 8 years on we are happily married- he is a great step dad to dd now aged 14 and we have a son together aged 5.

NotTheMrMenAgain · 21/08/2017 23:11

I have a lovely friend who left a horrible marriage and now has a supportive DP who is actually half her age - he adores her and they are happy, so 8 years is nothing! Smile

JWrecks · 21/08/2017 23:11

If you're having as much fun as you say you are, laughing more than in ages and feeling like a teenager, then nothing else matters!

Your smile is contagious even over the internet! :) Have fun!!

PissedOffNeighbour · 21/08/2017 23:12

Isn't there a rough rule of half your age plus seven years...

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Costaricachica · 21/08/2017 23:13

Thanks faron and fairy!

I can't see it being anymore than a holiday fling but one I intend to enjoy given the chance!

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Costaricachica · 21/08/2017 23:18

Thanks JWrecks...! I really feel alive and "me" again...after years of misery. Letting go of all the shit is so liberating!

PissedOff...I'll drink to that! Wine

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Aquamarine1029 · 22/08/2017 05:34

Nonsense. My husband is 12 years younger than I am. Been together for almost 9 years and married for 6 years. We have a wonderful relationship.

SpiritedLondon · 22/08/2017 06:40

Oh he sounds great. I hoe some of the other ladies going through a terrible time could see there is light at the end of a tunnel? ( my friend is 15 years older than her DH) Being nosey are you surfing?

TheNaze73 · 22/08/2017 08:07

I'm male & more than 10 years younger than my partner. It can work.

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Costaricachica · 22/08/2017 10:15

Yes surfing. It's something I've always wanted to do. I can't help feel suspicious why anyone (especially young!) would be interested in me with kids at all!

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mindutopia · 22/08/2017 10:34

Definitely not. My husband is nearly 7 years younger than me. We met when he was 21 and I was about to turn 28. We've been together nearly a decade now very happily and it works well for us. It may be different if you have children as you're likely in a different stage of life, but I wouldn't discount someone just because they're a few years younger than you. All of my previous boyfriends were at least 5 years older than me and my much younger husband is by far the most mature and responsible person I've ever been with, so it can work.

bert3400 · 22/08/2017 10:39

11 years between me & hubby...been together 19 years ....im older , he's the sensible one !😁

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